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desperately seeking advice

NAS50347

Hi,

we are convinced that my husband has Aspergers. It was mentioned to me by a work friend and now our whole married life just makes a bit of sense now. We have been together about 23 years.

everything I’m reading is a comfort in respect to now realising ‘it isn’t just me’. 

He has an appointment with the gp soon, as I can’t make it I’ve decided to make a note of all similarities etc to fight the cause for a diagnosis. We so need this to happen to help all of us. 

I’m both worried they will say no and/or if it does happen it might not show the result we need in order to receive advice and support.

one of the things I’m a little confused on is the topic of neurotypical - I read this is related but then also completely separate. Can anyone shed some light in this for me?

  • It can be a relief when you finally realise you have ASD as it explains so much. Personally, the realisation that I have Aspergers, and later the diagnosis just put my entire life in context. How does your husband feel about possibly having Aspergers? 

    With regards to the GP appointment, I’d suggest that yourself and your husband go through the diagnostic criteria for Aspergers and write down examples of how he meets each criteria. Results of online AQ tests as well of the opinions of friends that may be health or education professionals would help as this then gives the GP another professional opinion. The GP does have a responsibility to ensure a clear path for assessment for ASD. 

    Being honest, if he is referred and gets diagnosed. He gets a diagnosis, that’s it. Most assessment centres do offer therapy of sorts but it tends to be reserved for those at the more severe end of the spectrum. He could ask for his GP to refer him for therapy (post diagnosis) though I’m not sure what this entails. Does anyone else on here know the answer to this? Usually there’s a few books for suggested reading at the end of the assessment report as well as more general health advice. Sorry to be the bearer of bad tidings but there just isn’t the service out there for adults that there is for children.

    A neurotypical is a person without neurological condition whose neurological function is within the percentage of the population statistically considered normal. As opposed to Neurodiverse which is a person with a neurological condition. Hope this helps