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Non verbal communication

NAS50252

Hello 

For the last 3 years a guy appears to want to connect with me.  He knows my routine and waits for me where I shop and he works on the Estate where I work.  He sometimes waits for me and we go to separate work together.  He does not speak to me.  He does smile at me occasionally and watches me intently.  When he’s not happy with me if I have not responded to him smiling at me he will start a routine of waiting for me to arrive and then driving off.  This pattern has repeated quite a few times in the last 3 years.  I have approached him and he repeats what he is saying 3 times I don’t know what you mean.  I’ve approached him twice now to ask him to stop this driving off.  He normally parks next to me but because I refused to park near him when he does the driving off he now mirrors that pattern of behaviour.  We basically communicate with each other by the way we park.  I believe he has autism as he finds it really difficult to talk to me.  I really am struggling to understand why he is doing this.  I do not have autism but do have some level of understanding due to where I work.  

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  • NAS50252 said:
    He normally parks next to me but because I refused to park near him when he does the driving off he now mirrors that pattern of behaviour.

    If you get no response from knocking at the door of some one's house ~ you would walk or even also drive off after so long would you not?/. 

    NAS50252 said:
    He normally parks next to me but because I refused to park near him when he does the driving off he now mirrors that pattern of behaviour.

    Maybe driving off from the parking slot you are in, on to another one, nearer to or further from the one he is in ~ working upon a YES Relaxed, NO  Frowning2 or DON'T KNOW Neutral face parking theme positioning perhaps?/.

    Hand gestures HI  Hand splayed , BY Wave and so on and so fourth possibly also?/. 

    NAS50252 said:
     We basically communicate with each other by the way we park.  I believe he has autism as he finds it really difficult to talk to me.  I really am struggling to understand why he is doing this

    Strictly Car Dancing . . . Smiley

    [Please forgive my attempt at something verging on instructive humour possibly]

  • in reply to Deepthought

    I love this group thanks it totally makes sense and I’ve been over thinking things as apart from this he appears everywhere I go on my commute at back of work so I cannot avoid him.  Strictly car dancing I love that one.  I wish I’d have come here years ago.  It’s partly my fault because I’m not always picking up on him smiling before this because he was waiting for me and working on my estate I was making an effort every day to wave or smile but unfortunately it was dark and didn’t realiseFrowning2. 

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  • in reply to Deepthought

    I love this group thanks it totally makes sense and I’ve been over thinking things as apart from this he appears everywhere I go on my commute at back of work so I cannot avoid him.  Strictly car dancing I love that one.  I wish I’d have come here years ago.  It’s partly my fault because I’m not always picking up on him smiling before this because he was waiting for me and working on my estate I was making an effort every day to wave or smile but unfortunately it was dark and didn’t realiseFrowning2. 

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