Emotional links to animals and pets

Long story short, I have a pet pig, yes that's right, a pet pig. We got her when she was 3 months old. We asked for permission, rented house, and were told 'there's no reason why not', by a member of the housing team. We loved our little girl, her name is Reu, short for Reuben, because she's a girl.

A few months passed then we had a follow up with regards to the request for permission for her. Well, here it all begins. Seems the person who had given the 'ok' was a junior that strangely no longer worked there. We most certainly could not house a pig at the property under any circumstances. Bit late at this point, seeing as how she had been living with us for a month or so.

The letter came ordering her rehoming, the fights on the phone, the emails. I tried to suggest it was a mistake on there behalf, quoting what we had been told in the beginning no luck. 

After months of hassle we found her a new home. It felt like my soul had been ripped clean away from me. I've always been attached to animals rather than people and I really took to this little girl with all my heart. I've always found it easier to relate to animals rather than people, at the time I had no idea that I could be on the spectrum.

We found out a couple of weeks after she left that the new owner's partner had, shall we say mistreated her. We were sick. We made arrangements to bring her back, informing the housing team of what had happened.

Time went on and we heard nothing. Piggy settled back in with us and we were all so relieved to have her home and our family felt complete again.

Months later a letter arrived. Final order to remove her or face eviction. I was so tired, so worn out from fighting this. I threatened to get a solictor involved.

Just a  year ago wife had a breakdown and was diagnosed with bipolar. It shock our family to the core at the time. So by this time I had nothing left in me.

Eventually my mum stepped in. She took piggy to live with them, which satisfied the housing team and meant we still could see her whenever we wanted, my parents live just the other side of town.

The one piece of good news, from my point of view anyway, and sorry if it seems vindictive, but the next time I spoke to the housing team I discovered that the person I had been dealing with was, mysteriously, no longer available and later we were told he 'no longer works for us'. Me threatening legal action got him the push because of the way he had dealt with it.

It still breaks my heart and is ever present in my mind that she's not her with us. It just reinforced my distrust and dislike of people as it was a person who forced my beloved pet away from me.

Now I understand what being on the spectrum can mean in terms of how i bond with people and animals, it makes sense but it still hurts me so deep.

Sorry, wasnt as short a story as I suggested at the beginning.

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  • I can relate to your story. In general I would have to echo what others have said in that I tend to relate better to animals to humans.

    I don't think this is because they are more precious, it's just that their signals are easier to understand. It may be why I'm also vegan - I can't stand the thought of eating something that didn't want to die if I don't need it.

    In general I don't agree with linking autism to other issues (e.g. LGBT, feminism, age positivity etc), as is becoming the current trend. But there is clearly a strong link between autistic people and animals.

    I didn't know I was an 'animal person' until adulthood as I was never allowed to have pets growing up. But now my pets positively enrich my life.

  • Not Vegan but vegetarian, have been since I was 4 and saw a TV programme on meat processing! I'm almost militant in my belief that nothing needs to die for me to live.

  • I used to think that cows, sheep, pigs and chickens were sort of 'basic' animals that stood around doing/thinking nothing all day, but then I realised that they're the same as anything else (e.g. dog, cat, us) in that they experience a range of emotions, form bonds, play, have families, etc. I don't know how I didn't see that before. I think cognitive dissonance is the correct term for this. Cows in particular are actually pretty smart. They can solve problems (e.g. using a water pump) and jump around with joy when they're happy. It's very sweet actually.

    In general I think that there is a link between the way autistic (especially non-verbal) people and animals experience their sensory world. I think this is due to under-developed verbal processing and over-developed smell/taste/hearing. Similar to animals.

  • I like cows - I used to walk through a field of cows everyday on the way home from school. They 'feel' your presence & energy and decide whether they like you or not. I just made enough small noise so they knew I was there and which direction I was going - don't ever want to catch them by surprise.

    I could sit down in the field and they'd come and investigate me. No malice or anything - just curious and nosey. Never had any trouble with them - even when calves were around.

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  • I like cows - I used to walk through a field of cows everyday on the way home from school. They 'feel' your presence & energy and decide whether they like you or not. I just made enough small noise so they knew I was there and which direction I was going - don't ever want to catch them by surprise.

    I could sit down in the field and they'd come and investigate me. No malice or anything - just curious and nosey. Never had any trouble with them - even when calves were around.

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