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How do you tell someone on an online dating site that you're not that into them?

StephenHarris

A lady waved at me on an online dating site. We got chatting and when she didn't seem to know what Armistice Day was despite coming from Hong Kong, I got slightly suspicious... but still.

The main problem is that I just don't find her physically attractive and while that's not the sole thing in a relationship, it's kind of an essential part.

How do I break it off without upsetting her?

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  • It doesn't sound like you've actually got anything much to 'break off'.  I'd just say that it was nice chatting to her, but you would really prefer to talk to someone closer - something like that.  Unless you live in Hong Kong, too, dating isn't going to be that easy for you!  I'm sure she'll understand.  And she's probably got plenty of other people waving at her.

    I understand the thing about 'not upsetting' people, though.  You don't have to tell her you don't find her physically attractive.  Just some other way - like I've said - of showing you're not really interested.

  • in reply to Martian Tom

    She's from Hong Kong, but now lives here. Her English isn't great, which is arguably a drawback.

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