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Newly diagnosed and annoyed

Traicee

I'm 34 and was diagnosed as autistic about 3 months ago.  I have not received any help or support at all other than being enrolled in a support group that was less than useless. It was essentially a group of people sitting around saying the stuff they struggle with. I already know what I struggle with , I want to know what I can do about it.

Even this website is useless unless you need a carer or something. If you manage to work full time, despite the fact it makes you horribly depressed and anxious all the time, you're expected to just deal with it. There is no help or support in place at all.

I'm fed up with struggling, I want to know what to. I'm beginning to think that getting a diagnosis was a massive waste of time, it hasn't changed anything. I mean, at least now I know why I've been having trouble all my life, but I'm still no closer to actually getting any help.

I'm genuinely stuck. I've been told that masking is part of the reason that I struggle so much with my mental health. But what on earth am I supposed to do? Drop the mask and be unable to function in "normal society "? 

Any help/advice appreciated 

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  • Very similar experience and feelings here. Initial relief; diagnosis explains everything, I can be myself now.. you'd think. Family seem to expect me to 'try harder', work; reasonable adjustments? Token ones that are available to anyone..not allowed to reduce my workload, then they kicked me in the guts with "we expect you to be taking on MORE work" I feel quite angry about it too. Sorry I'm a bit rushed so I can't say much more, but I'll be back here because I'm also feeling like there's little to no help or understanding or leeway to just be myself without grinding myself down into a wreck. 

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  • Very similar experience and feelings here. Initial relief; diagnosis explains everything, I can be myself now.. you'd think. Family seem to expect me to 'try harder', work; reasonable adjustments? Token ones that are available to anyone..not allowed to reduce my workload, then they kicked me in the guts with "we expect you to be taking on MORE work" I feel quite angry about it too. Sorry I'm a bit rushed so I can't say much more, but I'll be back here because I'm also feeling like there's little to no help or understanding or leeway to just be myself without grinding myself down into a wreck. 

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