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Husband with IQ of 158

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I don't know what to expect here. My husband is autistic, he was diagnosed in his early 20's before we met. He is now 35, he is a secondary school maths teacher.

I would like to find other people who have had similar experiences to him if possible. The difficulty he has is that he finds extremely complex maths and science (up to and including PHD level) easy but has no one to discuss these things with, as people we know and people he works with don't understand things on the same level as him.

He doesn't really have any of his own friends, but will tolerate some of mine sometimes. Generally he finds other people boring. But he also sometimes expresses feeling lonely or isolated. He finds social situations very stressful, and will avoid them where possible. Does this sound familiar to anyone?

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  • Yes, this does sound familiar. My daughter has just qualified as a secondary school maths teacher. She loves her maths, just like your husband. She sometimes goes to talks organised by a professional body - maybe this one? https://ima.org.uk/events/talks/ Although there are other people there you don't need to interact much and talking about maths is less stressful and boring than social chitchat. 

    Universities have talks open to the public which I enjoy going to. Some are held on campus and some are outreach events held at other venues. Cafe Scientifique, the ESRC annual event (think it might be called Being Human), even Philosophy Cafes can stretch the mind in interesting ways. You can just sit and listen there's no pressure to speak to anyone if you don't want to. For me it's a good way to be around other people without getting stressed. Perhaps the Maths department at your local University might have something suitable?

    I have also attended techy groups I found on MeetUp.com. There was one that brought together digital and creative people for a series of short presentations on new innovations. There was a bit of social mingling but generally it was OK as the focus on conversation was mainly on the digital technology. Good luck with your search for suitable opportunities. It's really lovely that you are supporting your husband like this.

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  • Yes, this does sound familiar. My daughter has just qualified as a secondary school maths teacher. She loves her maths, just like your husband. She sometimes goes to talks organised by a professional body - maybe this one? https://ima.org.uk/events/talks/ Although there are other people there you don't need to interact much and talking about maths is less stressful and boring than social chitchat. 

    Universities have talks open to the public which I enjoy going to. Some are held on campus and some are outreach events held at other venues. Cafe Scientifique, the ESRC annual event (think it might be called Being Human), even Philosophy Cafes can stretch the mind in interesting ways. You can just sit and listen there's no pressure to speak to anyone if you don't want to. For me it's a good way to be around other people without getting stressed. Perhaps the Maths department at your local University might have something suitable?

    I have also attended techy groups I found on MeetUp.com. There was one that brought together digital and creative people for a series of short presentations on new innovations. There was a bit of social mingling but generally it was OK as the focus on conversation was mainly on the digital technology. Good luck with your search for suitable opportunities. It's really lovely that you are supporting your husband like this.

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