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Husband with IQ of 158

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I don't know what to expect here. My husband is autistic, he was diagnosed in his early 20's before we met. He is now 35, he is a secondary school maths teacher.

I would like to find other people who have had similar experiences to him if possible. The difficulty he has is that he finds extremely complex maths and science (up to and including PHD level) easy but has no one to discuss these things with, as people we know and people he works with don't understand things on the same level as him.

He doesn't really have any of his own friends, but will tolerate some of mine sometimes. Generally he finds other people boring. But he also sometimes expresses feeling lonely or isolated. He finds social situations very stressful, and will avoid them where possible. Does this sound familiar to anyone?

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  • I'm in the same boat - I'm a chartered engineer - I'm super-nerdy and always worked in high-tech.  Myself & the guys did a big project at work which ultimately ended with our redundancy. They were all much older than me so took the cash & then retired & moved away from the area. I'm left behind with no-one to go and do geeky stuff with.

    I've been searching without success for the last 3 years for new friends who appreciate science & technology.

    I've joined Meetup.com and I go out for coffee, lunches, bowling etc. but they are all either retired (old) or non-science people so it's not ticking my box.

    I tried the local model engineering club - they have a similar level of nerdiness - but they are all 30 years older than me and are (literally) dying out.

    My Aspergers means that although I'm now 52, I still feel like a teenager inside so like going to theme parks and animated films. All the people around me are just sooooo old.

    So I'm prretty much on my own. I have little in common with anybody so spend most of my time alone in the house. My wife says I'm deteriorating through the lack of mental stimulation.

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  • I'm in the same boat - I'm a chartered engineer - I'm super-nerdy and always worked in high-tech.  Myself & the guys did a big project at work which ultimately ended with our redundancy. They were all much older than me so took the cash & then retired & moved away from the area. I'm left behind with no-one to go and do geeky stuff with.

    I've been searching without success for the last 3 years for new friends who appreciate science & technology.

    I've joined Meetup.com and I go out for coffee, lunches, bowling etc. but they are all either retired (old) or non-science people so it's not ticking my box.

    I tried the local model engineering club - they have a similar level of nerdiness - but they are all 30 years older than me and are (literally) dying out.

    My Aspergers means that although I'm now 52, I still feel like a teenager inside so like going to theme parks and animated films. All the people around me are just sooooo old.

    So I'm prretty much on my own. I have little in common with anybody so spend most of my time alone in the house. My wife says I'm deteriorating through the lack of mental stimulation.

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