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An example of my literal mind...

Beaky8401

Can others of you relate to my behaviour?

So, my car broke 2 weeks ago.
I got it fixed this last Thursday (11th Oct).
My father in law knew the car was broken but didn't know I'd had it fixed.
He sent me a message yesterday (12th) saying "I suppose you'll be getting your car fixed tomorrow."
There was no question mark...it was a statement.
I have not sent a reply because it is an untrue statement...the car is already fixed. I could not get it repaired today.
My husband has pointed out that father in law meant it as a question and I should have responded with "I had the car fixed yesterday."
Now...on one level I DO understand that it was also meant as a question, but as it feels SO illogical to me when written as a statement...I just can't comfortably reply to it.
I deleted the message and he will have to ask me if I have had the car fixed or when I got the car fixed for me to feel comfortable answering.
Can anyone else relate to my thinking? My hubby is NT and it was another moment of "WOW...JUST HOW DOES YOUR HEAD WORK" for him about me!!

  • in reply to Trogluddite

    Me to daughter go get a tissue from toilet and blow your nose ( none downstairs)  

    Daughter returns few mins later very cross with wet hands telling me that there is no tissue in the toilet...

    She has always been a bit literal with her interpretation but..

  • I do a lot of the other things mentioned in replies too!

    Why can't people just say what they mean!

    Glad I'm not alone in how I read the message and reacted.

  • in reply to Silverdale

    That's one of the most common kinds of situation for it with me; when I've just arrived in a different environment, so that I'm still flustered and getting acclimatised, and then someone immediately fires a question at me.

    It's quite common that I answer "How are you?", with concise little descriptions of my physical state; "Damp", "Hot", "A bit sweaty", "I've got an itchy nose", etc., then have to pause for a moment as I catch myself doing it. The universally accepted stock answer "OK. How are you?", is inside my head somewhere, but I just can't get at it sometimes!

  • When my husband and I returned from an evening out, my father in law who was babysitting said "What time do you call this?" I answered "10.45". 

    Apparently he knew what time it was and was actually making some sort of joke about us being late back. Just doesn't make sense to me and makes me annoyed. 

  • Former Member
    Former Member in reply to Misheard Lyrics

    :-D

  • The latest example for me was when my dad asked me to draw the curtains. I came within a second of saying "I haven't got a pen" before the actual meaning of the request dropped into my mind.

  • Boss: "Do you think you could do [task] by [deadline]?"

    Me: "Yes"

    [deadline arrives]

    Boss: "Did you do [task]?"

    Me: "No"

    Boss: "Why not?"

    Me: "You didn't tell me to."

    I sometimes get this right, if I'm not rushed and have time to second-guess that asking whether I'm able to do something is often a polite way to request that I do; but if you catch me unawares by interrupting me while I'm in the middle of something, all bets are off, and I often simply don't see that I've agreed to anything other than the hypothetical possibility.

  • in reply to Former Member

    This sort of impossible question is very annoying! I also get frustrated by survey questions that can't be answered because they are ambiguous! 

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Them:  Are you going to bed or staying up?

    Me:  Yes.