So, after being pressured by family for a painful amount of time, I'm posting on here.
Firstly, I've been told by many I have some rather unique symptoms of Aspergers'. For example, I don't struggle with social interaction beyond mild social anxiety. After being friends with more than one autistic person, I've begun to notice more and more that I don't suffer from symptoms like other people. In fact, it's at the point where I've had to spend a long time with the university I go to in two weeks and explain everything in fine detail, and every time they made an assumption it was wrong.
And I don't doubt i have aspergers. I am oversensitive to smell and sound (though almost never overwhelmed), my head tends to do its own things and stick me in its obsessive loop and I struggle to 'put away' thoughts. I hope there's someone on this forum who's had a similar experience.
Secondly, I find it impossible to organise. Beyond impossible. I'm getting a dyspraxia assessment soon but to put it simply, sometimes I just don't remember. The spark isn't even there. When I have the moment of thinking on what I need to do, important things just don't come to mind. I can be telling myself every day for a week and remembering to do something and then I'll forget. And every method I've tried to keep organised has turned out bad. The last eight reminders on my phone went wrong in a variety of different and remarkably stupid ways. I forget to take planners around, lose them, never check them, or write in the wrong parts of them again and again until I can't find where I'm meant to be.
Has anyone got any good solutions/band aids to this?
GooseMachine54 said:I forget to take planners around, lose them, never check them, or write in the wrong parts of them again and again until I can't find where I'm meant to be.Has anyone got any good solutions/band aids to this?
I forget to take planners around, lose them, never check them, or write in the wrong parts of them again and again until I can't find where I'm meant to be.
I very much know what you mean about forgetting stuff.
Basically I do the same set things at the same set points during the day, week, month or year, by having made them into habitual activity routines over time ~ day in day out, week in and weak out and so on fourth for years. I found that using a wall calendar with days listed below each other, ticking them off at the beginning of the day, was most practical for me. Appointments get noted in where appropriate, like a personal organizer.
Making sure that set things are done according to what is most habitually alike at a particular time ~ social interaction days, shopping days and so fourth, means that things over time become automatic without having to think about them so much, and they just get done by rolling momentum.
Take advantage of your Autism and the need for established routine, and get yourself habitually organized sort of thing. A new long tern routine structure can take ages to integrate ~ but once it is habituated, the increasing experience of getting things done permeates through the confusion, and reorganizes the neural networks of the mind-body relationship for more efficient outcomes.
It does help to avoid feeling particular negative or positive when doing habituation work as being neutral about things allows habitual behaviourisms to integrate more effectively, especial if you feel positive about your mistakes and recognize them as retakes for the ongoing improvements.
If any of that helps perhaps?
a) I don't have that part of autism. I have no need for order and routine.
b) I've had calenders upon on my wall. Did nothing :/
GooseMachine54 said:a) I don't have that part of autism. I have no need for order and routine.
Well all living beings have a need for food, water and clothing at set times through the days months, seasons and years of their evolution. You have a biological and psychological routine that you are not particular aware of, aside from eating, drinking and dressing etc, being that it has largely been laid on and habituated like most people because of their parents and guardians, etc.
Becoming aware of your current routine and what it involves day by day, week by week, month by month for up to a year ~ more or less ~ is the first stage of working with what is there to develop.
GooseMachine54 said:b) I've had calenders upon on my wall. Did nothing :/
Essentially the calendar or better still calendars, one for the present month and the other for the next month, work as record of your behaviourial patterns, and appointments. Mark what you did and what you forgot, and patterns will emerge over the months and the years.
This will take time and effort should you wish to apply yourself in this way, remembering no one way of achieving something is effective for all, and hence statements like 'once you have met one person with autism; you have met one person with autism.' and 'horses for courses' and so fourth.
The above described process is what works for me, even when it does not work from time to time, I simply keep to it more than I do not. Currently I am in the process of relearning the calendar bit, but my habitual routines as previously developed have remained, so over the next few months ~ the calendar bit is the task in hand to relearn.
The habitual stuff just works itself but adding behaviourisms takes time, about four months minimum for some, sometimes for others longer.
If none of this really applies to you, I hope you find what does, and that it goes really well for you. Obviously if you have questions or opinions ~ ask or share. :-)