Avoiding looking at yourself in mirrors

Another thread asking 'is this an autistic thing?'

I've noticed I avoid catching sight of my reflection in bathroom cabinets, hallway mirrors and so on. It occurs to me that the sense is almost one of embarrassment, and may be similar to my problems connecting with other people and my general reluctance to make eye contact. When I'm in my inner world, is another human being too much even if it's myself?

I'm pretty sure it's not just worry about my appearance or ageing. I recall a big group at school when I was about 15 (at what might be PHSE nowadays), and a teacher asked for a show of hands by who had looked in the mirror that morning. They were teenagers. Of course they were concerned to look their best. I think I was the only one who hadn't, and didn't usually. I don't worry about appearance most of the time – I might look if in a fitting room, or glance in a car window if going to an event where I'm in front of people, and do have to shave occasionally but am still uncomfortable and don't look at my overall appearance. Almost literally scared of my own shadow.

There was some mention of this from a few people here: last month and a year ago. Kind of relate to 'a lot of other people with similar issues with mirrors'.

So here's the poll. Just a bit of fun, I hope.

Clarification after what Pirate Santa said: 'don't like eye contact' means either you probably don't keep eye contact as much as a typical person, or there are some circumstances, eg meetings with strangers, when you will usually be looking away, or inclined to look away, from people. There are times when I am interested in looking at someone, but it's far from my usual mode of being.

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  • I definitely do not like mirrors, though they do help sometimes and are unavoidable.

    I don't know if its also related but I also have no understanding of fashion, and no real sense of self image - I am often having my collar 'straightened out' in the office, or told by my wife 'are you really going out like that?'. I also don't notice other people and am accused of being unobservant, but I find this is limited to people, as I am always noticing all manor of obscure strange things and changes, just not the change in hair colour of a colleague (or my wife) or a new outfit / shoes etc. 

    How much of this is down to not liking eye contact I am not sure. I think its just that other people are not really in my sphere of interest / notice, and I do not feel the need to get involved.

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  • I definitely do not like mirrors, though they do help sometimes and are unavoidable.

    I don't know if its also related but I also have no understanding of fashion, and no real sense of self image - I am often having my collar 'straightened out' in the office, or told by my wife 'are you really going out like that?'. I also don't notice other people and am accused of being unobservant, but I find this is limited to people, as I am always noticing all manor of obscure strange things and changes, just not the change in hair colour of a colleague (or my wife) or a new outfit / shoes etc. 

    How much of this is down to not liking eye contact I am not sure. I think its just that other people are not really in my sphere of interest / notice, and I do not feel the need to get involved.

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