Avoiding looking at yourself in mirrors

Another thread asking 'is this an autistic thing?'

I've noticed I avoid catching sight of my reflection in bathroom cabinets, hallway mirrors and so on. It occurs to me that the sense is almost one of embarrassment, and may be similar to my problems connecting with other people and my general reluctance to make eye contact. When I'm in my inner world, is another human being too much even if it's myself?

I'm pretty sure it's not just worry about my appearance or ageing. I recall a big group at school when I was about 15 (at what might be PHSE nowadays), and a teacher asked for a show of hands by who had looked in the mirror that morning. They were teenagers. Of course they were concerned to look their best. I think I was the only one who hadn't, and didn't usually. I don't worry about appearance most of the time – I might look if in a fitting room, or glance in a car window if going to an event where I'm in front of people, and do have to shave occasionally but am still uncomfortable and don't look at my overall appearance. Almost literally scared of my own shadow.

There was some mention of this from a few people here: last month and a year ago. Kind of relate to 'a lot of other people with similar issues with mirrors'.

So here's the poll. Just a bit of fun, I hope.

Clarification after what Pirate Santa said: 'don't like eye contact' means either you probably don't keep eye contact as much as a typical person, or there are some circumstances, eg meetings with strangers, when you will usually be looking away, or inclined to look away, from people. There are times when I am interested in looking at someone, but it's far from my usual mode of being.

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  • Autistic, don't like eye contact, mostly fine with mirrors unless they are in numbers, in close proximity and effect the lighting conditions too much. I had a stage which I mention above where I avoided them for a while but that was more sensory than anything else.

    I have a bit of a beat up face, nerve damage around my right eye, a scar on one side of my forehead, a scar on my left cheek, a scar on my eyebrow and a cauliflower ear. I don't like them, some bad memories but I hate hair. I shave my head and my face clean. So I don't really have a problem with mirrors, unless I get too reflective (no pun intended) on the past.

    I actually had a phase where I practiced expressions and gestures in the mirror in my early 20's. I had a really deadpan face, I still do for the most part but I think it helped.

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  • Autistic, don't like eye contact, mostly fine with mirrors unless they are in numbers, in close proximity and effect the lighting conditions too much. I had a stage which I mention above where I avoided them for a while but that was more sensory than anything else.

    I have a bit of a beat up face, nerve damage around my right eye, a scar on one side of my forehead, a scar on my left cheek, a scar on my eyebrow and a cauliflower ear. I don't like them, some bad memories but I hate hair. I shave my head and my face clean. So I don't really have a problem with mirrors, unless I get too reflective (no pun intended) on the past.

    I actually had a phase where I practiced expressions and gestures in the mirror in my early 20's. I had a really deadpan face, I still do for the most part but I think it helped.

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