Avoiding looking at yourself in mirrors

Another thread asking 'is this an autistic thing?'

I've noticed I avoid catching sight of my reflection in bathroom cabinets, hallway mirrors and so on. It occurs to me that the sense is almost one of embarrassment, and may be similar to my problems connecting with other people and my general reluctance to make eye contact. When I'm in my inner world, is another human being too much even if it's myself?

I'm pretty sure it's not just worry about my appearance or ageing. I recall a big group at school when I was about 15 (at what might be PHSE nowadays), and a teacher asked for a show of hands by who had looked in the mirror that morning. They were teenagers. Of course they were concerned to look their best. I think I was the only one who hadn't, and didn't usually. I don't worry about appearance most of the time – I might look if in a fitting room, or glance in a car window if going to an event where I'm in front of people, and do have to shave occasionally but am still uncomfortable and don't look at my overall appearance. Almost literally scared of my own shadow.

There was some mention of this from a few people here: last month and a year ago. Kind of relate to 'a lot of other people with similar issues with mirrors'.

So here's the poll. Just a bit of fun, I hope.

Clarification after what Pirate Santa said: 'don't like eye contact' means either you probably don't keep eye contact as much as a typical person, or there are some circumstances, eg meetings with strangers, when you will usually be looking away, or inclined to look away, from people. There are times when I am interested in looking at someone, but it's far from my usual mode of being.

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  • Greetings Mr.Cassandro! I see this as I begin to visit, and so I vote, the second choice. However...

    I am only "fine with mirrors" for reasons not usually thought of: 1 - I always check my appearence a lot, due to Health Reasons. (Not detailed unless asked, since they are a bit "icky".) 2 - I often wear a necktie or similar and must make certain that it is straight a lot. Vanity - no, self-protection and Psychological effects - yes.

    3 - ...Being the Cynosure that I am... I use mirrors or windows or reflections a LOT when on "the street", to see who may be behind me, stalking me, planning some sort of harassment, etc. etc. ...

    I do not (currently) like my own reflection, and it scared me at nights so much that I no longer have any mirrors in my own "room". But mirrors are useful to me for looking at other people...?    :-/

  • I use mirrors or windows or reflections a LOT when on "the street", to see who may be behind me, stalking me, planning some sort of harassment, etc. etc. ...

    I find them useful for the same reasons. You can avoid eye contact with mirrors, look at people without staring and lots of other things. I don't like too many in close proximity but they are pretty useful for lots of things.

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  • I use mirrors or windows or reflections a LOT when on "the street", to see who may be behind me, stalking me, planning some sort of harassment, etc. etc. ...

    I find them useful for the same reasons. You can avoid eye contact with mirrors, look at people without staring and lots of other things. I don't like too many in close proximity but they are pretty useful for lots of things.

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