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Lost and asking for help

Mark
over 5 years ago
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I have always struggled with daily life and have come to realise that maybe something is not quite right with me. I have been looking on the internet and it appears that I have a lot of autistic characteristics.   I have done an online test and scored 41 out of 50.

My GP surgery have agreed to refer me on so I can be assessed for autism.  I don't know if I'm autistic but its a case of needing to start somewhere on this journey.  I have also thought that it might be depression, OCD or a combination of things.

Probably not giving you a lot to go on but just wanted to get the post up and running.  Any questions please ask.

I'm looking for any thoughts, tips, help,  ideas on where to go next.

I'm 50 and male by the way.

Cheers

Mark

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi Mark, I am 45 and we (my wife and I - after some training she did) identified that I have some autistic traits.  I have the third part of the assessment on Friday this week so am hopeful of some answers then.  It took about 8-10 months to finally get here (I had an initial 'mental health' assessment, then a wait (and a fair bit of pushing emails to try and get the appointment), had the first one about 6 weeks ago, and like I said the second this week.  Through discussions with my wife, and we've discussed it with the kids, we say things are 'different' with me, and I look at things differently to others.  I would do some reading on the subject if you haven't already, and discuss it with those you feel comfortable with.

    An example, when I come home from work, I would 'rant' or offload information about my day.  I wouldn't ask my wife how her day was, as I assume people just tell you.  This was something that annoyed her, and one of the traits she picked up on.  Now I try to remember to ask (even though it feels weird saying the words), but that is progress as we are understanding one another and compromising on our expectations of one another.

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  • over 5 years ago

    Hi Mark, I am 45 and we (my wife and I - after some training she did) identified that I have some autistic traits.  I have the third part of the assessment on Friday this week so am hopeful of some answers then.  It took about 8-10 months to finally get here (I had an initial 'mental health' assessment, then a wait (and a fair bit of pushing emails to try and get the appointment), had the first one about 6 weeks ago, and like I said the second this week.  Through discussions with my wife, and we've discussed it with the kids, we say things are 'different' with me, and I look at things differently to others.  I would do some reading on the subject if you haven't already, and discuss it with those you feel comfortable with.

    An example, when I come home from work, I would 'rant' or offload information about my day.  I wouldn't ask my wife how her day was, as I assume people just tell you.  This was something that annoyed her, and one of the traits she picked up on.  Now I try to remember to ask (even though it feels weird saying the words), but that is progress as we are understanding one another and compromising on our expectations of one another.

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  • over 5 years ago in reply to Phil_J

    Thanks for replying.

    I have discussed it with some close friends and family but only those I trust.

    Apart from the reading, did you do any particular prep for any of your assessments

    What made you want to take it further as its not the easiest process to go through.

    Thank you for your time.