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Just got diagnostic report and I scored 7 on the Empathy Test

Xanadu
over 5 years ago

Hello

I'm really sorry if this is one of the boring questions that gets asked a thousand times.  I got my diangostic report and I scored a 7 on the EQ test.  I know the difference between cognitive, affective and compassionate empathy.

I'm sure that my affective and compassionate empathy is Ok.  I am constantly feeling guilty.  I care about humanity, animals and I have 6 children who are my whole world.  I'm just a bit shocked by this score nevertheless.

I am VERY blunt.  I am very literal and I can't always work out what other people are thinking. Working out what other people are thinking drives me crazy.  I try to avoid doing it and I do what I do.  I also try to stay away from people as much as I possibly can.  I like a few people, thankfully one of them is my husband!!  I experience all emotions except jealousy I don't really ever feel that.

I know the differences between the different kinds of empathy but it's not me I'm worried about.  Other people don't know do they?  Other people are still stuck in the dark ages and think Autistic people are devoid of any feeling.

I've had real mixed feelings about this diagnosis.  At first it was like relief.  Then it was like being liberated but slowly as I realise all the additional 'assumptions' this label is going to bring I'm not sure it's a great thing anymore.  Or at least it is and it isn't.

I was hoping this diagnosis would bring me some understanding.  I'm starting to wonder about that.  Is it just going to bring me even more MISUNDERSTANDING if I share a report with a professional and they see my EQ score is a lowly SEVEN :O 

I don't know, when you stick a label on yourself, suddenly everyone is an expert!!  It's so tedious !

I'm not sure I can take much more misunderstanding to be honest with you!

Parents
  • over 5 years ago

    I had a conversation about it once. I consider myself pretty empathetic. The conversation ended with "I would have the empathy to not make someone feel like a sociopath, what's your excuse? Are you on the spectrum, a sociopath or are you just being a ***?".

    I wouldn't spend too much time second guessing yourself, I did it for a while and it was a waste of time. Nothings changed about you except for a piece of paper.

    Xanadu said:
    when you stick a label on yourself

    Don't stick a label on yourself then! I don't hide what I am but I don't wave a flag either. I only talk about it when it's relevant.

    From what I've seen everyone has a bit of fallout after a late diagnosis. I still am sometimes. You know who you are better than anyone else, so *** everyone else.

    Ironically the best way to deal with it is not caring what they think!

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  • over 5 years ago

    I had a conversation about it once. I consider myself pretty empathetic. The conversation ended with "I would have the empathy to not make someone feel like a sociopath, what's your excuse? Are you on the spectrum, a sociopath or are you just being a ***?".

    I wouldn't spend too much time second guessing yourself, I did it for a while and it was a waste of time. Nothings changed about you except for a piece of paper.

    Xanadu said:
    when you stick a label on yourself

    Don't stick a label on yourself then! I don't hide what I am but I don't wave a flag either. I only talk about it when it's relevant.

    From what I've seen everyone has a bit of fallout after a late diagnosis. I still am sometimes. You know who you are better than anyone else, so *** everyone else.

    Ironically the best way to deal with it is not caring what they think!

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