manic at bedtime

Hi there,

Not sure if I should be posting here or not but I was hoping someone would recognise this and be able to offer me some advice.

My 4 1/2 yr old daughter is currently going through the diagnosis process, so we are very new to all this and being so young it is only recently that her differences have become apparent.

She is a bright but rigid thinking little girl. She generally has very little interest in social relationships although turns this on its head sometimes by interacting with others. She has very good language although sometimes says things that don't make sence and doesn't always understand what we are saying. She is often in her own world and doesn't appear to listen. She likes to run (in circles) and bounce, and often chews things. She also has problems with busy places and some loud noices. She either hates touch or is overly touchy. She has little or no eye contact. She cannot deal with change and often flys off the handle if something isn't done 'correctly'

That is just a little glance into her personality. what I want to ask about is her behaviour at bedtime. It is like she becomes manic. She laughs, bounces on the bed, shouts, sings, makes daft noices. It like she's on speed or something. I'm at my wits end with it, she keeps her younger brother awake and often trashes her room and breaks toys and books. I'm really not sure of how to deal with this behaviour. 

Does anyone recognise this behaviour or know any ways I can help her to relax? I have tried calm music, quiet time and she has a bubble tube. Nothing seems to work.

Help xx

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  • My 7 year old daughter has been like this for as long as I can remember. When she was a toddler she would have her crazy half an hour before bed in which she would run around the house naked (she went through a phase as a toddler of hating wearing clothes and would strip down to her nappy or further as often as possible) squealing and just acting so hyper.

    We just got used to it but the older she got the more over the top this hyper half an hour became. Eventually what worked for us was putting her to bed at 6 to settle down, so she could pick something to do to wind down, it could be watching tv or drawing or playing with her dolls. Then 20 minutes before "sleep" time I go in and tell her she has 20 minutes left so if there is anything else she wants to do to do it quick. 

    In her case what I think was happening was a reaction to being told it's bedtime i.e no more playing or anything and so she just lost it and became hyper. Wheras now she knows she has an hour or so before actually stopping to go to sleep she seems much calmer. There have been days when she's had to go straight to sleep time (because she was out late or whatever) and we end up with hyper time and it takes her twice as long to get to sleep.

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  • My 7 year old daughter has been like this for as long as I can remember. When she was a toddler she would have her crazy half an hour before bed in which she would run around the house naked (she went through a phase as a toddler of hating wearing clothes and would strip down to her nappy or further as often as possible) squealing and just acting so hyper.

    We just got used to it but the older she got the more over the top this hyper half an hour became. Eventually what worked for us was putting her to bed at 6 to settle down, so she could pick something to do to wind down, it could be watching tv or drawing or playing with her dolls. Then 20 minutes before "sleep" time I go in and tell her she has 20 minutes left so if there is anything else she wants to do to do it quick. 

    In her case what I think was happening was a reaction to being told it's bedtime i.e no more playing or anything and so she just lost it and became hyper. Wheras now she knows she has an hour or so before actually stopping to go to sleep she seems much calmer. There have been days when she's had to go straight to sleep time (because she was out late or whatever) and we end up with hyper time and it takes her twice as long to get to sleep.

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