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Never felt so alone since being diagnosed

TheFunFact

I got diagnosed in April with Aspergers. I'm 31. To say i never felt so alone i mean by anything. My wife understands and helps so much but family members are not soo understanding by what i have. Ever since I've been diagnosed it seems like no one cares. 

The Doctor seemed concerned with my eating habits and sleeping, so i went to my doctors... She didn't seem to care only saying here's leaflets on healthy eating but I'm not stupid i understand all about healthy eating. 

When i bought up the sleeping she said i can't give you sleeping tablets (which is ok i don't like tablets) She said i should contact my local autism team. Even on my sleeping habits, i said and she said yes. I even said i hate sleeping i don't like it and only get about 3-5 hours a night.

The doctor that diagnosed me said in my letter that i won't be able to settle into work life with things and my brother said we all have trouble with work sometimes.

My sister says i should talk to her but she doesn't understand she just sees me as blunt and just agrees.

Just feels since i have been diagnosed its someone else's problem or no one understands

As i said my wife is amazing and always helps me. She was the one that got me to see if i have autism. I do feel for her as i can be very hard work and not nice to live with on some days. But she says to me shes amazed of the things i remember and do. Which is nice.

I never realised how much hard work it is being me or having Aspergers. The truth is i don't want it all. I knew i was different in some way even when i was younger, but all i ever wanted and still do is to be normal. I know some people say define normal It's hard to explain but i can. I'm not depressed tho. Even tho some people think i am.

Sorry for this long message just felt you lot might know about this..

  • One of the medications I take is Mirtazapine, for depression. It is an antidepressant, but also works very well as a sleeping tablet (taken at night of course)). You can take it long term. Perhaps ask your GP for a prescription for that.

  • in reply to TheFunFact

    I’m on about 5 hours myself a night at the moment and there are quite a few night owls on the forum as well.

    Your sense of “aloneness”.. is that partly a sense of disconnect or disassociation with your own self identify at present? We can be alone or lonely in a crowded room... is that due to a lack of connection with others or with ourselves? 

  • in reply to Pirate Santa

    I know some people who sleep 10 hours and i get about 5 and i have more energy than them. Maybe you are right. That's my normal amount for sleeping. Thanks

  • Not too sure what to advise on the other points, but with regard to your sleeping habits, if you can function well on just 3-5 hours per night, then I wouldn't worry about it. Not everyone needs to sleep eight hours a night & trying to force yourself to conform to other people's requirements using medication sounds like an awful idea. If you just try to sleep as much as you feel that you need, then eventually your body will find it's own equilibrium.

    I have had recurring insomnia most of my life, but can now function quite happily on only five hours, with six being almost a luxury. Needing less sleep is an advantage rather than a problem as you have an extra few hours every day to do things that you want to do when everyone else is asleep.

    Watch TV, play video-games, read a book etc, as long as sleeping less than the recommended average isn't making you overtired in the daytime, then your body has found it's own rhythm & it isn't really anything to worry about at all.

  • Hi

    your diagnosis is still very recent and it might take a little time for all parties to process that, including you. Do heed the advice from Otis and be kind to yourself..