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Bullying - With Experience

Disambiguating Cynosure

Greetings. This is one of those Threads which I have been meaning to start for a very very long time. Adults and "People with Children" are welcome to Post and/or "Vent", equally. Please feel free to write anything... and if you can, end it with some resolution/positve hindsight/result.

This is a bad Topic, which I am fed up of seeing sidelined or not fully discussed. "Being Bullied At School" is/was also actually a part of the "Diagnostic Criteria" for ASCs! Please share here experiences, and how you did or would have dealt with them. The more shared, I honestly believe, the more is learnt, if this is is discussed openly and without reservation, Thank You.

I shall begin with only a few things. Advice for dealing with Bullies includes "Ignoring them" and "Laughing them away". This advice does not work, as they either give chase, or they think that Bullying is being *enjoyed* by ALL concerned! 

Thanks for any replies in advance.

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  • Yes. I was bullied. I do think a better school will intervene. They did on the county I first grew up on. They were very good indeed about that. The county my family had moved to were of the attitude it was the fault of the one being bullied and when I started secondary school it was, up to a point: I was having trouble dealing with hormones and puberty and acting out a lot. That was not the case later on, so many at that school were just vicious. Even the headmaster had a go at me in front of the whole school oncebut I talked back at him a couple of years later. He could have expelled me for all I cared by then.

    As for adult bullies, that is why ultimately I felt would be better to be self employed. Now that I am a subcontractee less often it is a lot better - no office politics, except for the one part-time post!!!!! I worked part-time in a bookshop in my twenties and that was one of the worst situations: she seemed to love humiliating me in front of customers. She was also very good at playing the Victimised card herself if ever she was criticised her though: 'you just don't like our cultural style and you are prejudiced'

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  • Yes. I was bullied. I do think a better school will intervene. They did on the county I first grew up on. They were very good indeed about that. The county my family had moved to were of the attitude it was the fault of the one being bullied and when I started secondary school it was, up to a point: I was having trouble dealing with hormones and puberty and acting out a lot. That was not the case later on, so many at that school were just vicious. Even the headmaster had a go at me in front of the whole school oncebut I talked back at him a couple of years later. He could have expelled me for all I cared by then.

    As for adult bullies, that is why ultimately I felt would be better to be self employed. Now that I am a subcontractee less often it is a lot better - no office politics, except for the one part-time post!!!!! I worked part-time in a bookshop in my twenties and that was one of the worst situations: she seemed to love humiliating me in front of customers. She was also very good at playing the Victimised card herself if ever she was criticised her though: 'you just don't like our cultural style and you are prejudiced'

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