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Problems with motivation, getting out of house in the afternoon, and busy buses

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On some days, I really struggle to leave the house to get the bus to my asperger group. The buses are always so busy, I hate people sitting next to me, and it is just easier staying at home. But I feel really bad about this, and I am sometimes too lacking in motivation to even phone up the resource centre to tell them I can't come in - it is too much social effort.  Today for example: I just can't motivate myself. It is easier going out in the morning, but once I have been out and come back home for lunch, it is so hard to leave the house again. I coped really well yesterday - I went walking in the countryside at my familiar haunt, involving getting the bus, and I went out walking again in afternoon. But today I feel mentally tired and just can't get out (went out in the morning). Do others have this problem?

  • I hate being around school children. Is there any decent coffee shops you could go in before and after to try and displace the journey times?

    I was discussing a topic similar to this today and it was pointed out that I drink lots of energy drinks in the morning when I have head in hands/lack of motivation days to try and counteract apathy. 

  • I attend an asperger social  group at the resource centre, once a week  for two hours in the late afternoon. The buses are particularly busy at this time as all the kids are leaving school, and the journey takes 45 minutes around a very urban, busy area. I enjoy the group but the journey makes me feel very anxious.

  • I suffer from lack of motivation, maybe not to the same extent. I regulary go to work and achieve nothing. For me personally I find it I sleep in by more than a few minutes, although I can get to work on time it just knocks me all to pot. Head in hands moments all day, people getting on nerves etc. The words "mentally tired" describe exactly how I feel when Im having one of these days. Frequently I wonder where the day has gone.

    I also really hate public transport and people sitting next to me. I have a car, so thankfully it's only when on airoplanes or trains when I have to be tollerent. I used to have to get to buses to my apprenticeship in the next town when I was 16/17 and it took an hour and half, I just felt ill constantly when on them. When I had to use busy morning buses I used to drink heavily the night before so I literrally passed out asleep on them in the morning. My parents made me go to work everyday when I was at home, as soon as I left home sick days/holidays went in Smile

    What do you do at the resource centre? Do you enjoy it, or is it offputting. I find if Im going to do an activity I love it helps, although it doesnt resolve these kind of days entirely.