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Negative reaction to diagnosis

Good for you I guess

I posted a post similar to this in the introductions forum but didn’t get any replies so maybe it would help if I censored myself a little bit.

Basically, it has been a week today since I was diagnosed. I never sought out a diagnosis. I never wanted a diagnosis. I was surprised by it but my family and friends seemed to think it was quite obvious.

Firstly, I need to know is autism a medical condition? Is it a mental or physical health condition? I’m guessing it is a health condition as that is what being diagnosed with something means to me.

Why is it seen by many people as a good thing to be diagnosed with autism?

As I said before, being 'diagnosed with something’ is, to me, a bad thing. It means you are not normal at best; ill at worst.
If the only benefits of having an autism diagnosis are the same as the benefits of being diagnosed with any other disability, then I wish they would have just let me be because I already have other diagnoses.

To me, ‘autistic' is a negative label and I am having trouble coming to terms with it.

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  • I am not surprised you are having g trouble coming to terms with it. My family never reayacxeptrd my difficulties.

    I  was speaking grammatically formed sentences at 18 minrgs, then I regressed and stopped speaking. Then there were obsessions with letters and numbers and massive tantrums at home. I was assessed as being unable to adapt, rigid and black and white in thinking and lacking social intuition. But that was the 60's and it was called marvellous things but not what it would probably be called now.

    But when I read about Asperger's in the 90's after another family member came under the spotlight, the fact that it was portrayed as lifelong and not something you grew out of, felt like a death knell to me and I also sensed my whole lifestyle and attitude to life were being called into question within family all over again. It a came at a real low point in my life and I did end up getting significantly depressed.

    But you are still you, is all I can say. Don't listen to ignorant people, just use it to understand yourself if the cap fits, ignore it if not. I would suggest you see it as a card you happen to have been dealt with, rather that something that defines you in stone.

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  • I am not surprised you are having g trouble coming to terms with it. My family never reayacxeptrd my difficulties.

    I  was speaking grammatically formed sentences at 18 minrgs, then I regressed and stopped speaking. Then there were obsessions with letters and numbers and massive tantrums at home. I was assessed as being unable to adapt, rigid and black and white in thinking and lacking social intuition. But that was the 60's and it was called marvellous things but not what it would probably be called now.

    But when I read about Asperger's in the 90's after another family member came under the spotlight, the fact that it was portrayed as lifelong and not something you grew out of, felt like a death knell to me and I also sensed my whole lifestyle and attitude to life were being called into question within family all over again. It a came at a real low point in my life and I did end up getting significantly depressed.

    But you are still you, is all I can say. Don't listen to ignorant people, just use it to understand yourself if the cap fits, ignore it if not. I would suggest you see it as a card you happen to have been dealt with, rather that something that defines you in stone.

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