Clothing

I'm not sure if it's autism related either but I too feel uncomfortable in the types of overly dressy clothes that would be expected at a wedding. It's not so much about the fabric / labels of these clothes in particular as the fact that I just don't feel like me in them. Probably because we don't generally go about our daily lives dressed quite so stiff and formally. I think I just don't know how to act when I'm dressed like that, does that make sense? 

As a female, wedding clothes involve the types of shoes that I would NEVER normally choose to wear, hats which I would never wear AT ALL, and a style that demands a more ... decorous and graceful walk, movement and action than I would be expected to deploy at work or on the supermarket run. I would imagine it's the same for men but I suppose it could be worse - you might be asked to wear a kilt!!  

Thank you. It's really good to know it's not just me. You describe it really well. Especially as a female I feel that like we're expected to compete in fashion terms. It's difficult enough just being there from a social point of view. 

Thank you. It's really good to know it's not just me. You describe it really well. Especially as a female I feel that like we're expected to compete in fashion terms. It's difficult enough just being there from a social point of view. 

Sorry, I keep assuming (wrongly) the sex of the person I'm speaking to! Everything about weddings is a bit of a nightmare: the forced interactions with total strangers, the competition and bitchiness over fashion choices, the clothes themselves, and the rictus smile that has to stay in place no matter what. I guess the one good thing is that the main focus of attention is the wedding couple themselves so, unless you're in the main wedding party, it's perfectly acceptable to stay in the background.