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Therapy for Autistic Behaviour?

Xanadu

Hello

I'm not sure if I totally resent the idea of therapy for autistic behaviour!  At a first glance it feels like maybe having therapy so that you can 'fit in' and be more neurotypical.  On the other hand, objectively could that be useful?

I guess for me some help around the sensory stuff would be personally useful to me.  I'm not sure though if it's right that I have therapy to dilute my autism to make it more palatable to other people.

I don't have 'challenging behaviour' unless you determine brutal truth as challenging.  I think some people do.  I overload with detail which can be a bit challenging to people.  I don't threaten violence.  I'm never actually violent but I do say just what I think!  I do not lie.

Has anyone had any therapy for Autism, what did you have it for, what kind of therapy did you have and did you think it helped you or made a difference?

Is there anything that you'd recommend? 

Thanks in advance.

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  • The best thing anyone said to me in terms of dealing with my ASD (which beat any therapy) was a question. "What would be the worst thing that could happen if you just stopped fighting your traits, compared with what is happening fighting them?". Something clicked in my head that day. I still have massive sensory problems but fighting against what is essentially "me" was killing me. This was from my GP who has (by his own admission) next to no experience with Autism. You sound similar to me. It's helped my anxiety. Don't overthink your actions too much and be yourself instead of thinking "I'm Autistic" first. All the best.

  • in reply to Cloudy Mountains

    Thank you Cloudy.

    What has been most liberating for me is finding this forum.  Since finding this forum, I've accepted myself.  I think it might have made me worse actually!  lol   I now make very little attempt to hide my Autism.  Why should I?  I only dilute it now as I always have for children because they are children.  It's easy for me to do with them.  Grown up adults though I just find I'm not as motivated to pretend in front of.

    I spent so many years feeling bad.  Feeling like I wasn't very nice or didn't fit in.  Wondering why I wasn't close to lots of people, feeling confused, blaming myself, not liking myself . . .

    No, no, no that all stops.  I'm 43. You don't get an eternity on this planet.  No, I'm not spending any more time doing all that stuff.  I'm going to embrace who I am and what I am.  Some people do like it!  Not everyone granted.  I've been married twice, neither husband wanted to leave.  Second one is still here.  First one was a cheat so after a period of that I just thought, no that's enough now I think!

    Point is.  I don't need EVERYONE to like me.  A few people will do.  I don't like groups of people anyway.  Anyway once you get to forty you realise actually you don't even care, it's about "who I like" and "who I want to be with".  Anything else is not applicable really . . .

    I do love this forum though.  Totally love it!

  • in reply to Xanadu

    No problem!

    You won't have too many problems by the sound of things!

    I just regret not expressing my problems earlier, years of thinking my sensory problems were a serious mental illness were a waste of energy and time! Can't change that now though!

    Yeah this forum is good. The best one I've been on since being diagnosed! 

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