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Pariah by proxy...

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Due to my ASD do others find that people also disassociate themselves not only from you but also those around you.. I.e. family members, friends, partners? 

It is my sons birthday tomorrow and I shall make his birthday celebrations as quiet but as glorious as I can. However, I  feel sad that he is ostracised by others (aunties, uncles, step parents, step children) and not sure if that is him being “guilty by association”... or that my ASD behaviour has caused us both to be social misfits. 

Thoughts welcome..

  • I think you might be giving yourself a hard time unfairly. Some families are more complicated than others and it can be easy to think you are the problem when there are other issues going on under the surface. I don't see how your ASD can be to blame though. Without knowing you personally I can't tell if this is anxiety messing with you (we've all had those days), or if your family do have a problem with it. It doesn't really matter though as either way they are the ones letting the side down by not making an effort. I am the mum of a (undiagnosed) ASD kid and he does not get ostracised by the rest of the family. You are not the problem here. Please don't think that you cannot find better support elsewhere. I'm new to this forum but I think they have some good resources for finding support networks.