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Nostalgia and obsession with the past

Hope

I live in the past. I fear the responsibilities that adult life brings; I endure bittersweet nostalgia for my childhood and schooldays, when things were safe, predictable, structured, choice was limited and my anxieties were safely contained. My past seems like a golden age, a perfect time, like a perpetual summer.

I am immature, emotionally, that is. I don't feel my age, and I am anxious nearly all the time. It is because of my anxiety that I yearn for a simpler time.

Are there others who are trapped in the past?

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  • It certainly fits my understanding that people on the spectrum look younger than they are. The cause however may be harder to pin down. One possibility is the need for facial expression to communicate amongst NTs - people on the spectrum by being less effectively interfaced have more relaxed facial muscles?

    Ageing is to some extent a prospect of rough usage - drinking, smoking, diet, exposure to strong sunlight. Do people on the spectrum tan a lot or stay out of the sun? For some there may be sensitivity to bright sunlight. But there isn't the social need for a sun tan.

    Cosmetics may be less important for people on the spectrum. Some of the chemicals used are harmful.

    I used clubs a lot, in my thirties and forties, as an attempt at a social outlet - disco noise is easier to deal with than unaccompanied social noise, though I do suffer from it being too loud. I don't smoke and drink very little in the way of alcohol - I consumed low alcohol lager or plain water in clubs for years. However the smokey atmosphere must have had an effect - it doesn't seem to have had.

    Do people on the spectrum avoid clubs?

    I've always looked considerably younger than my age, ridiculously immature looking in my twenties and thirties. However being very tall that tended to offset the look a bit, and as a teenager I was perceived as mature because I was pensive. NTs do seem to get confused......

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  • It certainly fits my understanding that people on the spectrum look younger than they are. The cause however may be harder to pin down. One possibility is the need for facial expression to communicate amongst NTs - people on the spectrum by being less effectively interfaced have more relaxed facial muscles?

    Ageing is to some extent a prospect of rough usage - drinking, smoking, diet, exposure to strong sunlight. Do people on the spectrum tan a lot or stay out of the sun? For some there may be sensitivity to bright sunlight. But there isn't the social need for a sun tan.

    Cosmetics may be less important for people on the spectrum. Some of the chemicals used are harmful.

    I used clubs a lot, in my thirties and forties, as an attempt at a social outlet - disco noise is easier to deal with than unaccompanied social noise, though I do suffer from it being too loud. I don't smoke and drink very little in the way of alcohol - I consumed low alcohol lager or plain water in clubs for years. However the smokey atmosphere must have had an effect - it doesn't seem to have had.

    Do people on the spectrum avoid clubs?

    I've always looked considerably younger than my age, ridiculously immature looking in my twenties and thirties. However being very tall that tended to offset the look a bit, and as a teenager I was perceived as mature because I was pensive. NTs do seem to get confused......

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