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Hi,

Have been a while since I posted here, having big problems at work and outside of it. I have been very angry about things at work, I don't know where to start. The biggest problems I have is complaints about my performance, I am consistently compared to 2 other members of our team (team of 4 in total). One of those I don't feel is fair because I don't feel he has the capability of doing the work I have done, the other one is literally this incredible person. I don't know how they work so fast, although I have been credited with the quality of my work in the past, recently not though. The meetings with my line manager are getting hostile and having a huge effect on me, which comes back in to my performance again. I have been through the changes at work, but I feel they have largely been igonred, the only thing that has improved is the reduction on the reliance of skype conversations.. One problem I have is that my skills are now outdated, so finding alternative employment is extremely dificult (or unlikely). We are moving to newer technologies imminently, so I am just trying to hang on to that. 

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  • Things seemed to have taken another push downwards; I didn't know what to do, but a few things from the meeting just simply were not true so I emailed my colleagues and say my line manager is suggesting xx I dont feel that is the please me know what you feel. Wording is a bit different, but I copied hr in. I got a message from hr saying please don't send any emails out ao she can investigate what's happened. I replied and agreed that I wouldn't send out any emails, but said I feel at a great disadvantage because my manager was keeping all these conversations in a private meeting room. hr responded and said as part of the agreed reasonable chnages I can ask for someone else to be with me in the meeting. I replied and said my line manager told me to keep my issues and personal problems outside work

    My psychologist said, don't do anything in the heat of the moment. I though I was making a rational decision, not sure if I have helped the situation. I don't know what to do now

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  • Things seemed to have taken another push downwards; I didn't know what to do, but a few things from the meeting just simply were not true so I emailed my colleagues and say my line manager is suggesting xx I dont feel that is the please me know what you feel. Wording is a bit different, but I copied hr in. I got a message from hr saying please don't send any emails out ao she can investigate what's happened. I replied and agreed that I wouldn't send out any emails, but said I feel at a great disadvantage because my manager was keeping all these conversations in a private meeting room. hr responded and said as part of the agreed reasonable chnages I can ask for someone else to be with me in the meeting. I replied and said my line manager told me to keep my issues and personal problems outside work

    My psychologist said, don't do anything in the heat of the moment. I though I was making a rational decision, not sure if I have helped the situation. I don't know what to do now

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  • in reply to random

    We can't really advise you on what to do because obviously we lack the majority of information, and have no real picture of the context. 

    Are you at the stage where your manager and HR draw up a plan of work and secure your commitment to deliver that piece of work by a given deadline? Typically there are specific things to be completed every few days, so any "falling behind" will quickly be spotted.

    If you are at that stage, you have three options:

    1) deliver the agreed work on time, then keep your job, despite a blot on your file and increased monitoring on you for the next few months. 

    2) resign because you can't deliver the agreed work. 

    3) stick it out and go through formal written warnings and ultimately dismissal if you don't deliver the agreed work.