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Interview misery

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I know I should be happy - I've finally got an interview, after several months of jobseeking and applications. However, I'm now feeling as though these are all just more torturous hurdles to try and make me go insane. The paperwork they expect me to bring along as per the new immigration rules consists of at least six documents, two of which to prove where I live (And I have no idea why they want that information - surely the fact I got the interview letter via the post says something?) and the rest to prove that I'm an actual real person. 

Actually getting to the interview feels like hell. It's being held in a place that's remote, and is a community centre as well as a health clinic - so dozens of triggers there for panic, not to mention the pre-interview nerves. 

I know I should be pathetically happy to be offered any job, but right now, it just feels like a slap in the face. I spent hours on the application form, redrafting the cover letter, and it won't even pay the rent after travel costs. I don't know how NT people do this and manage to cope, because I certainly don't feel that I'm coping myself. 

I've just recovered from a really bad migraine - migraines which will now have to be controlled for the rest of my life. My parents had to rescue me from my bedsit and give me specialist medication, and I really feel like I'm not coping. If I find even the interview hard, I'm going to be miserable for the rest of my life just trying to cope day-to-day.

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  • Thank you, Caretwo. Very reasonable and sensible comments. I'm not sure that this will work for me, because I'm not officially diagnosed - and the sector that I work in might well be leery of employing someone who has AS. (I can imagine an HR person looking at my application: 'You have difficulty communicating, and yet you say here that you have great communication skills....you supposedly love working in a team, but your self-diagnosed disability might preclude that...')

    I know the disability discrimination acts don't allow employers to pick and choose around candidates, but the problem is that it does happen. One of my close relatives lost some hearing and started to lose his sight, but the bosses at the workplace resented having to make specific changes for him. Eventually, a claim was made against him (He worked in the education sector, so no surprises there) by a junior hooligan, and he was forced to leave. He quite rightly pointed out to me that his case wasn't the only one of its kind, and that if you have a suspected disability - don't admit it. He still thinks it's a weakness to have to admit it to bosses who would rather use that information to oust people than help them. 

    I'm still rather torn. I can't declare myself disabled (no diagnosis) and at the same time, I don't want to give an employer a get-out clause to sack me when they want to because I'm not performing to standard. 

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  • Thank you, Caretwo. Very reasonable and sensible comments. I'm not sure that this will work for me, because I'm not officially diagnosed - and the sector that I work in might well be leery of employing someone who has AS. (I can imagine an HR person looking at my application: 'You have difficulty communicating, and yet you say here that you have great communication skills....you supposedly love working in a team, but your self-diagnosed disability might preclude that...')

    I know the disability discrimination acts don't allow employers to pick and choose around candidates, but the problem is that it does happen. One of my close relatives lost some hearing and started to lose his sight, but the bosses at the workplace resented having to make specific changes for him. Eventually, a claim was made against him (He worked in the education sector, so no surprises there) by a junior hooligan, and he was forced to leave. He quite rightly pointed out to me that his case wasn't the only one of its kind, and that if you have a suspected disability - don't admit it. He still thinks it's a weakness to have to admit it to bosses who would rather use that information to oust people than help them. 

    I'm still rather torn. I can't declare myself disabled (no diagnosis) and at the same time, I don't want to give an employer a get-out clause to sack me when they want to because I'm not performing to standard. 

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