What is your experience of volunteering?

Hi all

I have spent 42 years volunteering for NTs. This has involved many things to support them meet their aspirations and ensure that I don't disrupt their desire to carry out their day to day activities. I have volunteered at events that have caused sensory overload and stood by NTs when I have been isolated and rebuffed. I have provided my services and sacrificed my own needs in order to make NT folk feel better about themselves and be able to inflate their eogs. I have tried to reduce their embarrassment of me by constantly monitoring my behavior for errors even though this was often exhausting and demoralizing. I have picked myself up and continued this role despite meltdowns, shutdowns, depressions, anxiety being the result.

Conversely, they have been kind to this volunteer and politely ignored my ability to not hold eye contact 

Due to my ND skillset I am of use in my volunteering capacity, as aspies....

1. are able to easily forgive others
2. are conscientious, reliable, and honest
3. are enthusiastic and have a propensity for obsessive research, thus developing a broad and deep base of knowledge in subjects of interest
4. are free of prejudice
5. are intelligent and talented
6. are less inclined to be fickle or bitchy than their neurotypical counterparts
7. are more likely than those of the general population to pursue a university education
8. are not inclined to lie to others
9. are not inclined to steal from others
10. are not likely to be bullies, con artists, or social manipulators
11. are not motivated by an intense social drive to spend time with whoever happens to be available
12. are persistent, and when they set their minds to something or make a promise, they can usually be trusted to follow through
13. are unlikely to launch unprovoked attacks, verbal or otherwise
14. are untainted by the judgments that people often make regarding one another's social position or social skills
15. are very accepting of the quirks and idiosyncrasies of others
16. bring a highly original perspective to problem solving
17. can be selective, choosing honest, genuine, dependable people who share their interests
18. can bring up a variety of interesting facts
19. can listen to people’s problems and provide a fresh perspective, offering pure assessments based on the information provided
20. can recall fine details that others miss
21. can relax and be themselves without fearing social censure
22. don’t attack the reputations of those around them
23. don’t discriminate against anyone based on race, gender, age, or any other surface criteria
24. don’t force others to live up to demanding social expectations
25. don't have hidden agendas
26. don’t play head games
27. don’t take advantage of other’s weaknesses
28. don't usually recognize hierarchies, and so are unlikely to give someone superior status simply because that person is wealthy or has attained a high position in an organization
29. have a good work ethic
30. have a lot of passion when engaging in activities they like.
31. have a tendency to adhere to routines
32. have above-average intelligence
33. have an acute sensitivity that supports creative talents
34. have exceptional memories
35. have extreme endurance
36. have high integrity
37. have no interest in harming others
38. have one or more highly developed talents
39. have values that aren't shaped by financial, social, or political influences
40. judge people based on their behavior – not the color of their skin or socioeconomic status
41. like to spend time alone and are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves
42. loathe small talk and trivialities, preferring instead to talk about significant things that will enhance their knowledge base
43. make very good employees if able to control their pace and work within either a solitary or socially supportive environment
44. pay attention to detail
45. stick to their positions, even in the face of intense social pressure
46. tend to become proficient in the technological media required for lucrative employment in the “information age”
47. tend to prefer individual sports to team sports, as there are no social demands and they can exercise complete control over the activity
48. who develop an interest in sport or fitness are likely to work at it every day, often for long periods of time
49. will not go along with the crowd if they know that something is wrong

in 2018,  I am giving up volunteering x

All the best guys xx

Hi all

I have spent 42 years volunteering for NTs. This has involved many things to support them meet their aspirations and ensure that I don't disrupt their desire to carry out their day to day activities. I have volunteered at events that have caused sensory overload and stood by NTs when I have been isolated and rebuffed. I have provided my services and sacrificed my own needs in order to make NT folk feel better about themselves and be able to inflate their eogs. I have tried to reduce their embarrassment of me by constantly monitoring my behavior for errors even though this was often exhausting and demoralizing. I have picked myself up and continued this role despite meltdowns, shutdowns, depressions, anxiety being the result.

Conversely, they have been kind to this volunteer and politely ignored my ability to not hold eye contact 

Due to my ND skillset I am of use in my volunteering capacity, as aspies....

1. are able to easily forgive others
2. are conscientious, reliable, and honest
3. are enthusiastic and have a propensity for obsessive research, thus developing a broad and deep base of knowledge in subjects of interest
4. are free of prejudice
5. are intelligent and talented
6. are less inclined to be fickle or bitchy than their neurotypical counterparts
7. are more likely than those of the general population to pursue a university education
8. are not inclined to lie to others
9. are not inclined to steal from others
10. are not likely to be bullies, con artists, or social manipulators
11. are not motivated by an intense social drive to spend time with whoever happens to be available
12. are persistent, and when they set their minds to something or make a promise, they can usually be trusted to follow through
13. are unlikely to launch unprovoked attacks, verbal or otherwise
14. are untainted by the judgments that people often make regarding one another's social position or social skills
15. are very accepting of the quirks and idiosyncrasies of others
16. bring a highly original perspective to problem solving
17. can be selective, choosing honest, genuine, dependable people who share their interests
18. can bring up a variety of interesting facts
19. can listen to people’s problems and provide a fresh perspective, offering pure assessments based on the information provided
20. can recall fine details that others miss
21. can relax and be themselves without fearing social censure
22. don’t attack the reputations of those around them
23. don’t discriminate against anyone based on race, gender, age, or any other surface criteria
24. don’t force others to live up to demanding social expectations
25. don't have hidden agendas
26. don’t play head games
27. don’t take advantage of other’s weaknesses
28. don't usually recognize hierarchies, and so are unlikely to give someone superior status simply because that person is wealthy or has attained a high position in an organization
29. have a good work ethic
30. have a lot of passion when engaging in activities they like.
31. have a tendency to adhere to routines
32. have above-average intelligence
33. have an acute sensitivity that supports creative talents
34. have exceptional memories
35. have extreme endurance
36. have high integrity
37. have no interest in harming others
38. have one or more highly developed talents
39. have values that aren't shaped by financial, social, or political influences
40. judge people based on their behavior – not the color of their skin or socioeconomic status
41. like to spend time alone and are perfectly capable of entertaining themselves
42. loathe small talk and trivialities, preferring instead to talk about significant things that will enhance their knowledge base
43. make very good employees if able to control their pace and work within either a solitary or socially supportive environment
44. pay attention to detail
45. stick to their positions, even in the face of intense social pressure
46. tend to become proficient in the technological media required for lucrative employment in the “information age”
47. tend to prefer individual sports to team sports, as there are no social demands and they can exercise complete control over the activity
48. who develop an interest in sport or fitness are likely to work at it every day, often for long periods of time
49. will not go along with the crowd if they know that something is wrong

in 2018,  I am giving up volunteering x

All the best guys xx