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Finding it difficult to express myself.....

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I can chit chat away but at the centre of things I find it incredibly difficult to express my feelings and what I want and need. As a result I can feel isolated and unsupported. Does anyone else have this issues and what strategies to you use to help manage this.

thank you.

A typical aspie-NT conversation about feelings:

NT: What’s wrong?

Aspie: I don’t know.

NT: You look upset.

Aspie: . . .

NT: Are you sad? Angry?

Aspie: I don’t know.

NT: It’s okay. You can tell me.

Aspie: . . .

NT: Fine. Don’t tell me. I was just trying to help.

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    Hi Ellie,just wanted to say you are not alone in this, maybe a bit of a difficult subject to talk about honestly.

    I can make conversation to just about anyone, I find myself checking out the other persons tones and responses so I can adapt to what they prefer,

    In effect just being compliant for an easy life,or just feeling “hey I can communicate with a being equally” I do this at work,easy to get the person on side,first line is usually” they don’t appreciate how much you do around here” this is usually the case with workers feeling put upon by the management.

    I do it for an easy life and to not have enemies.

    Regarding relationships? I don’t feel confident to tell all here.

    I get by.I get “upset” if I can’t find something I need at home, so I walk about looking,my wife says” what are you looking for?” I just keep pacing about and then just slump back down in my chair and not respond, not exactly a mature response. Last night I asked for my nail scissors as they weren’t where I keep them,she jumped up leaving her dinner,hey I can look just tell me I say.

    “no I know you it’s not worth your moods,” she said.

    says a lot about me.

    I don’t do emotion face to face, on here it may seem I am perfectly able to spill emotions all over the place! I have time to think,time to edit,time to try and think it through before”saying” typing it.

    I get by but don’t do face to face emotion. If I like something or some one, I like them a lot.

    I don’t have any answers,if you find any let me know please.