I don't know whether i'm over stepping the mark talking about self harm on here but hope i'm not breaking any rules or anything as it's not intentional i promise.
I've hurt myself again today. Don't worry it's not serious and i see my GP tomorrow and intend on telling her so it's all good.
Just feel so sad suddenly.
I'm talking to a friend which is good cos she is supportive.
May go bed so i can calm.
Any tips?
Hello Anne,
It sounds like you are having a tough time - I saw your post about the sick friend and will keep my fingers crossed. I try to be gentle but 'up front' with people - to let them know that I can handle anything they tell me but that they shouldn't tell me anything they don't want to, and -literally or metaphorically - I'll hold hands and listen. Unhappily there are no easy formulae and the last thing in the world I want to do is to sound trite or respond to genuine pain with a cliche. I recommend the holding hands, in either form.
I'm not a believer and I do not believe in ultimate justice. Bad things happen to good people - even exceptionally good people - and I see nothing behind or beyond suffering other than accident and a world of people who do not understand the benefits of actually loving each other.
Moving on from your poorly friend, it sounds like your other 'friend' simply has too big a mouth. There's a lot of that about. And 'shared' support isn't always fairly shared. It often depends on the experience and capacities of the people involved. There are many who want to be 'loved better' who wouldn't actually have a clue how to provide that for anybody else even if they could actually see beyond their own problems.
It is so very hard, I know, but I'd ask you to be very careful of 'friends', especially if they are suffering. Among such you will find the brightest jewels but you may also find the most serious pains in the wotsit, and you are far too important - even to me who scarcely knows you - to let the latter kind get you down 
I've just finished school for the week, of course, and have spent this evening finishing up a project I started with one of the students today. I finally got around to building a working model of an ancient siege catapult (from a wooden kit - I'm not that clever) and we have had a whale of a time testing it out in one of the classrooms today, and videoing the results. I've been editing the videos.
This weekend I need to help my son to move from his current accommodation because of problems with one of the people he's been sharing with, and maybe I will get into town on Sunday again. Or maybe I'll just continue with my list of projects.
I'm happy to tell you that my name is Richard and that I live fairly close to London, and indeed I'd be quite happy to tell you a lot more but the rules of the forum forbid that and I have promised to abide by them.
Bedtime again, for me.
Goodnight and 'good' bless, Anne.
Talk to you soon.
Affection, always,
Hello Anne,
It sounds like you are having a tough time - I saw your post about the sick friend and will keep my fingers crossed. I try to be gentle but 'up front' with people - to let them know that I can handle anything they tell me but that they shouldn't tell me anything they don't want to, and -literally or metaphorically - I'll hold hands and listen. Unhappily there are no easy formulae and the last thing in the world I want to do is to sound trite or respond to genuine pain with a cliche. I recommend the holding hands, in either form.
I'm not a believer and I do not believe in ultimate justice. Bad things happen to good people - even exceptionally good people - and I see nothing behind or beyond suffering other than accident and a world of people who do not understand the benefits of actually loving each other.
Moving on from your poorly friend, it sounds like your other 'friend' simply has too big a mouth. There's a lot of that about. And 'shared' support isn't always fairly shared. It often depends on the experience and capacities of the people involved. There are many who want to be 'loved better' who wouldn't actually have a clue how to provide that for anybody else even if they could actually see beyond their own problems.
It is so very hard, I know, but I'd ask you to be very careful of 'friends', especially if they are suffering. Among such you will find the brightest jewels but you may also find the most serious pains in the wotsit, and you are far too important - even to me who scarcely knows you - to let the latter kind get you down
I've just finished school for the week, of course, and have spent this evening finishing up a project I started with one of the students today. I finally got around to building a working model of an ancient siege catapult (from a wooden kit - I'm not that clever) and we have had a whale of a time testing it out in one of the classrooms today, and videoing the results. I've been editing the videos.
This weekend I need to help my son to move from his current accommodation because of problems with one of the people he's been sharing with, and maybe I will get into town on Sunday again. Or maybe I'll just continue with my list of projects.
I'm happy to tell you that my name is Richard and that I live fairly close to London, and indeed I'd be quite happy to tell you a lot more but the rules of the forum forbid that and I have promised to abide by them.
Bedtime again, for me.
Goodnight and 'good' bless, Anne.
Talk to you soon.
Affection, always,
