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Child in and out of foster care

CeeDee

I'm a single mum with a 5 y/o boy. I'm autistic and as far as I know he's neurotypical with no challenging behaviour.  But I have a social worker to help me out because I'm autistic and she has suggested my son goes into foster care just for respite to give me a break if I'm struggling or just need time on my own but knowing he's safe. I'm not sure if this is a good idea even though it's not permanent and I can bring him home whenever I want and see him whenever I want. The social worker said I will still have complete control over him. 

I don't have much of a family, I don't have a mother and my father died 3 years ago from a terminal illness  and my sister and I dont get on . My son's father is in prison. So I'm totally alone which is why the social worker is here to help look after my son and she just feels respite in foster care will be good for him and for me. 

What would you do in this situation? Is this a good idea? My son is only 5 but understands quite a lot and he knows he's loved by me.

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  • I'd be extremely careful in a situation like this (and try to get some independent advice from somewhere).  

    We cannot give legal advice on this forum, and I've a feeling you may need something that verges on it.   Do you have any other family or even close friends that could form some level of support at this time?

    It could be a good idea to contact the Citizens Advice Bureau either locally or via the website https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/

    Please don't get pushed into anything before you've had some sound advice. 

    Wishing you well. 

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    I don't have any friends. I have noone only social services and they suggested this and I know I can talk to them more but I just wanted to see what other autistic parents would do or even their experiences as being parents? 

  • in reply to CeeDee

    I understand. I just believe it would be good that you get some independent advice here before you commit to any agreement. 

    Take care

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    I would agree to maybe after school clubs something, not foster care. It may sound like a simple solution to the social worker. I know there are respite school trips but foster care really means they are asking for your parental approval, legally this is more permanent. Agree independent advice, not autistic myself but my sister is a social worker. they are understaffed and the service massively under pressure. The best option is one least disruptive to your son, good luck xx

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  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed ( O & U )

    I would agree to maybe after school clubs something, not foster care. It may sound like a simple solution to the social worker. I know there are respite school trips but foster care really means they are asking for your parental approval, legally this is more permanent. Agree independent advice, not autistic myself but my sister is a social worker. they are understaffed and the service massively under pressure. The best option is one least disruptive to your son, good luck xx

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