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Homeschooling

puffin

Hi all!

I am about to send off my application to LEA to homeschool my six year old.  HE has Aspergers and finds school a stresssful place, some of the time.

He has been struggling on at school, refusing to go half the time, very anxious with any changes but he is very social in small familiar groups.  He is quite bright and says alot of school is "boring"!

My husband is keener than i on the homeschooling issue.  I am unsure , one day i am all for it the next i worry it is the wrong thing.  Social skills is my biggest concern.  My husband has Aspergers and i worry he might not be thinking it all through enough.  his main concern is safety and to protect our son, the "wrapping him up in cotten wool syndrome"!!  Dont ge me wrong, i feel the same way sometimes but being the NT i wonder if it is always for the best ?!

I am willing to give the homeschooling a go and it would be great to think we are preventing the bad memories and hardships some Aspies go through at school, but that is a worse case scenario. We could be stopping him from some good times too? I have always expected to homeschool one day but wonder if we are trying this too soon.  I do intend to increase the socializing and have friends around more often but still worry if i am doing the right thing?

Any comments on the pros ad cons of homeschooling much appreciated before i send off my applicaion! 

My son by the way is keen to try it, He may flourish at home i am excited for him and worried at the same time?!  I have read a few homeschooling books and feel i can do it just not sure i should, yet?

Sorry about all the dithering,

Puffin

 

 

 

  • Just to say all is going really well with our home schooling at the moment.  Both my son and myself are really enjoying the experiance.

    The worst bit was making the initial decision. It is not for everyone of course but if any one out there is considering and frightened they may not be able, please just give it a go school will always be there if it does not work out.

    I am amazed how much work we get through in just a sort space of time,  he has almost finished his year 3 maths books already!  We can be flexible in what we learn and when and when the sun shines we take the teaching outside, its great.  

    Thanks for all the support and advice.

     

  • Aww hope ya don't mind the 'to the point' comments?! 

    well if and when my son gets to the stage your son is at I will defo be sugarcoating him!!! I already do! Haha

    and don't worry an out friends and family, he is YOUR son, you decide what's best . Unless they have a child with autism they will never understand. 

    and take comfort in knowing ur choices are made foR him. 

    the right actions map out a positive future foR him. xx 

  • Thanks for that. 

    Your comments were very much "to the point" and i appreciate that. 

    It does help to remind me why we are proposing to home school.  To protect him from the Nt idiots out there!  I will just have to make sure i help him build his confidence where i can, doing things he is happy and comfortable doing. 

    We are posting the homeschool application off tomorrow, one scientist with a cotton wool overcoat coming up!! 

    Friends and some family think we are making the wrong choice!  i think hearing all the negative responses had me wavering a bit but i am back on track now. 


    "fortress of love and protection"  I love that, and intend to do just that, Thank you

     

  • Hi, 

    firstly now how r are feeling as my son 6 years old in yr 1 at mo  also has aspergers HFA and struggles socially in school. I don't think he is nearly as bad as your boy at the mo. 

    I am moving his school still mainstream to one that Is better suited to his needs That will support him better. I too know that one day home schooling will be the only option for us. 

    when that time comes as I know will, when the gap between him and his peers gets bigger and he struggles more I will not hesitate in home schooling rather that than a life at school of misery and fear fron other kids. 

    I think your son is already at that place so I'd do it if I were you. Why wait if he is already not coping. 

    Stacey x

  • Speaking as an aspie who when through the mill growing up in Nt world. Give your child cotton wool syndrome or a nannie state. Give him a fortress of love and protection. Because there is two type of aspergers ghetto hell or nannie protected. Ghetto hell ends up with mental health issues and nannie protected ends up a scientist. YOU CHOOSE ? keep him away from the rabble, there is no choice to make in my mind. Aspie out Laughing