Verbal Instruction

I recently experienced something I thought was interesting, and thought it may be worth relaying here.  A bit of background information first - I am currently awaiting a Full Assessment for ASD, and one of the things I have always had problems with is understanding verbal instruction.

A few days ago, I was speaking to somebody at my car insurance company, who was giving me information about my car policy, and I was finding it very hard to take in the facts and figures.  I explained to the man in the call centre that I was having problems taking in the information, and thought he might not understand what I meant by that, so then told him with a bit of hesitation "basically I'm mildly autistic".  He'd been quite helpful before I mentioned autism, but then he asked if I would like him to read out the key points of the policy so I could write them down, which I said would be very helpful indeed.  He explained the various details, giving me time to write them down, so I could understand and process them, and respond appropriately.  It was such a good experience for me to speak to somebody in this way, and after the call I felt very positive about having understood the information much more clearly.  As I sometimes have trouble speaking in the "wrong" places in phone conversations too, I found the space that he gave me in the conversation was less stressful.

However, I must admit to feeling a bit uneasy about claiming I was "mildly autistic", not because I don't feel comfortable thinking of myself in this way - diagnosis would in fact be a comfort - but because I was claiming to be something that (at the moment at least) I'm not.  Also, I've heard it said that "there's nothing mild about Autism" - because ASD means so many different things to so many on the spectrum.

If I felt overloaded with information on a phone call again, which is common for me, I'd be tempted to mention autism again, because it helped me to get sense and the relevant details from the call.

I guess what I'm asking here is should I feel at ease doing this again?  I suppose it comes down to me wanting to be honest (I've been told many times that I am!).

I'd be interested to know what others think.  After my realisation that I may have ASD recently, I'm now in that difficult middle ground until I get my Full Assessment.

Parents
  • Everyone in my ND family of choice have problems with verbal instructions...me included.

    We send text or Messenger lists, we have whiteboards in both kitchen and living room. We use photo apps on phones if we need to get specific details.

    Both girls struggle with keeping physical diaries but both accept that I keep an electronic diary and they are welcome to ask me to send them reminders.

    We could get shares in Post-It notes :-)

    Because I've done lots of adult education and advocacy I'm now up to speed with not assuming that the girls have learned even simple things like teeth flossing. SD20 is about to get braces and I'm looking at YouTube clips on how to care for teeth once braces are in place.i will send her a couple and I'm quite happy to do some work together as she develops the skills. She's learned that I don't shame her for not learning things easily... sadly SD16 still thinks that it's bad to ask for that kind of help.

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  • Everyone in my ND family of choice have problems with verbal instructions...me included.

    We send text or Messenger lists, we have whiteboards in both kitchen and living room. We use photo apps on phones if we need to get specific details.

    Both girls struggle with keeping physical diaries but both accept that I keep an electronic diary and they are welcome to ask me to send them reminders.

    We could get shares in Post-It notes :-)

    Because I've done lots of adult education and advocacy I'm now up to speed with not assuming that the girls have learned even simple things like teeth flossing. SD20 is about to get braces and I'm looking at YouTube clips on how to care for teeth once braces are in place.i will send her a couple and I'm quite happy to do some work together as she develops the skills. She's learned that I don't shame her for not learning things easily... sadly SD16 still thinks that it's bad to ask for that kind of help.

Children
  • My husband finds me frustrating....as at times I perceive his instructions as being "orders" and not requests or enquiries....he wants my input and I take it as just being told what to do.....so he gets frustrated and I feel rejected and lacking in personal agency (I can be very stubborn and like to feel that I should have a say in my life)...