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Do you revert to childishness when someone annoys you?

Marianne72

This is the first time I've confessed, so I'm hoping to read your own ways of dealing with excruciating behaviour! You might remember my problems with a new neighbour. One of her 'naughties' was siting planters on my property then complaining when I moved them. After a few days of provocation, I threw her largest planter on her lawn. Next day, I received a police visit (she'd complained  without revealing her provocation). There were other incidents I won't bore you with. Now, when she bangs my wall in the early hours [not often since her police warning about provoking me!], I do an 'air gun' mime - pointing my fingers like a gun towards her wall with appropriate sound effects, but not so loud she'll hear. I vary this with a Gatling gun 'attack' with appropriate sound effects. Occasionally I do air tomahawks or a bit of mooning [and I have a large 'moon']. It relieves stress and makes me smile, but would surprise ex-colleagues with whom I was always formal.

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    I shout or talk to the TV all the time. Sometimes I email local TV presenters but only positive things, if they look particuarly nice that evening or they are unhappy - like when Victoria Graham on Spotlight was crying when her colleague Justin Leigh left. People often forget presenters are human. I can't imagine how they deal with awful news, like Reginald Bosanquet breaking down as he read news of Aberfan.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    I often wish I was still young enough to cast myself to the ground and have a total kickiing and screaming fit

    Oh, I'd love to do that too, but far too inhibited. Perhaps we should get together an autistic flash mob and do a performance somewhere really staid and public.

  • in reply to profdanger
    profdanger said:
    whenever people annoy me I have to question whether I’m the problem for some reason. 

    It takes me a long time to analyse situations, for the same reason as yours. But, I've found it helpful because I used to creep around and that's why I got targetted even more i.e. I never retaliated. The other thing I do far more often is ask them to explain what they mean, preferably in front of others. If it was malicious, very often they look embarrassed [I know that look so well by now] and don't answer.

  • Oh I’m probably the opposite. I fawn effect (freeze up) to literally everything: Provocation, nuisances, questions I don’t know the answer to, you name it. I just shut down. I’ve blamed it on a combo of Autism and depression, because whenever people annoy me I have to question whether I’m the problem for some reason. 

  • I do stuff like that too.

    I often wish I was still young enough to cast myself to the ground and have a total kickiing and screaming fit, like so many small children do in the middle of shops, this is where I want to do it too, for some reason my Mums's really glad I don't , I can't understand why, lol. 

  • Oh Marianne that is hilarious; you depict such vivid imagery!

    I had a bit of a giggle thinking about your actions but I can’t think of anything childish I do that is funny. Like you I do a ‘shooting’ mime with an imaginary pistol, but my ‘pistol’ is aimed at people on TV. When the news is so bad at the moment it feels good to take out all the ‘baddies’. My ‘pistol’ is usually aimed at those ‘baddies’ who talk too much, usually one in particular who can’t shut his mouth, then I change channel before he says another word.

  • This is brilliant, I love the way to defuse the tension and annoyance of what sounds like a really nuisance neighbour. 

    i feel silly saying this, but a while back, me and my husband had a thing where if one would say 'could you clean this up', the answer was always 'I can clean up -your face'. He has a bit of a silly/mishcehious streak, so I tell the kids if they are ever being cheeky they get that from him.