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Empathy and low EQ score

TearsInRain

Has anyone else been upset after being diagnosed as an adult to find that they have a really low empathy test EQ score? I felt ashamed at first, then upset and was even angry at times. Did it affect you in the same way? I'd really like to know thank you.

  • I got a really low score and was very annoyed because I put in lots of effort trying to fathom the whole "emotions" thing and learn the rules, signs and signifiers for how people deal with and display them, even though I don't really "get" it.

    ...then I realised that the fact I have to put in so much effort probably means the low score is correct Confused

  • Am I being un-empathetic if I say I don't really see the issue?   My feeling is that it is what it is, and unless you want to force yourself to try to understand the nuances of feeling that everyone 'may' have with every single issue, I'd really not let it get to you.

    However, you aren't taking it that way, and are clearly viewing it as something personal.  I know someone who would regard this news as being fortunate - so there's a totally different way of coming at it.  Too much empathy can be a burdensome thing. 

    It is probably good to have some understanding - objectivity - of how others might feel - but it can take over.  You can also tend to develop more empathy as you get older, so there's that. 

    Just some thoughts.  

  • I wasn't formally diagnosed, but after my self realisation I heard about empathy being low in autistic people, and did the EQ test online.

    I had a moment of surprise, a moment of disappointment and a moment of curiosity as to why the test score was so low when I was sure I was empathic.

    Since then I've learned that empathy is not non existent in us, it's just different

    And if course now all those moments have been lost in time, like tears in rain.

    (Are you a Blade Runner fan too?)

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