Social media should I stay off it?

very true, I have too little self control, for example when it comes to watching videos on youtube, and can't stop so I need to not start but it has helped a lot of people, especially those who would otherwise not have access to alternative views (ie those living in restrictive households or cults).  OK, I'm going to close the laptop now otherwise my day will have been entirely consumed by refreshing this website!!   

What you text anywhere doesn’t have the facial expressions and tone for it to be fully understood. Some people misread, some assume. Either way, that is only their opinion, and you shouldn’t feel bad or sorry for it. If you use social media for other things, like forums, and friends and family, or hobbies, keep it. You just need to ignore things like this when they pop up.

There are places to do what you speak of....but the NAS community forum isn't that place, in my opinion.

The NAS Community forum is hopefully to remain a place where diverse minds can post about their diverse minds and experiences....not the "issues" that now seem to pervade - war - rights - money etc.

one thing i was dumb on myself that people could do with knowing is i put a extension into a extension into a socket. after hearing pzzzzts a few times i googled it and realised your not supposed to daisy chain extenstions... 1 extension in socket only, no extension into another extension even if one of them is a surge charger. could have electrocuted myself there by my own ignorance on that matter....see hurtful truth is a learning experience even if it may offend or make someone out to be stupid. we are all stupid on things. we need to learn and know better for our future safety.

ahh this also reminds me of when i saw someone share a post...

it was a post from someone who was raging about a aerosol air freshner.... they sprayed it on their radiator and it set fire to their house, and they was raging claimig the product is unsafe and trying to sue the company and get everyone to hate them... so many people without thinking sharing it and siding with her as if she is right on the matter.... then i come along and laugh at her call them all idiots and point out its a aerosol and aerosols are flammable and she sprayed it on a radiator which is a heat source and asked her what was she expecting from that, then pointed out it also says warnings on the tin saying its flammable and dont spray it on heat sources lmao the person on my friends list that shared it unshared it immediately and felt like a idiot probably more so given she was from my school and everyone at my school thought me to be dumb and immature and lesser in every way to them lol the origonal poster also removed it i think after i called them out on how stupid they are lol

the fact of the matter is, people are so stupid now it makes them a danger to themselves and everyone around them.... you have to point these things out so everyone can learn and then not be stupid... if i didnt point that out everyone would think she was right and maybe more people would be setting their houses on fire and not thinking on these simple common sense things. by calling her out on this one i increased fire safety around the nation and hopefully people wont be spraying aerosols on heat sources anymore lol

sometimes you need to ditch the last one as what is necessary often is never kind.
what is true often hurts and is also never kind.
kindness would get in the way of saying anything, and the world is a worse place if people dont discuss and clash on ideas and sort things out. civil rights movements are all about ditching that kind step and going straight for hard topics of discussion and clashing with ideas and the result swaying to a acceptable middle ground eventually and societys way of correcting itself and changing with times.

nah, you need to constantly challenge people like this so that society corrects itself and someone is there to instill common sense.

a loud minority will often be offended at everything, the loud minority need to come off social media and be silenced, the world needs common sense again and more people to challenge morons that spread their moronity. 

I agree.....and that isn't even the worst of it....in my opinion.

I came off social media last year and its a breath of fresh air, in general I have noticed people around me are letting life pass them by because they are looking at their phones, FB etc are destroying social interaction and independent thinking (just my perception) 

Good morning Joe.

I have read through this thread and paid attention to your comments especially.  I don't think you need the advice you asked for in your opening - maybe just the courage of your own convictions.  I am not on social media and am regularly reminded that this is the right thing for me.  It is more difficult and lonely that way.....but definitely better in my opinion - for all of human kind - I wish it hadn't become "a thing."

Kind regards. Number.

I don't think "cancel culture" is a  thing, it doesn't really exist because if it existed then certain celebrities would just stop being celebrities and that simply hasn't happened. Flame wars, bullying, doxxing, and dog-piling* is what happens to every day people when they get "cancelled" (they deactivate their own accounts of their own violition**) and are not new. The following isn't an accusation as I'm sure people are using it unknowing of it's origin but...
Calling it "cancel culture" is just a buzzword tool of conservative ideologues who yell about "free speach" but then try to silence people who use their free speech to tell them they are being horrible when they are being  horrible to others regardless of whether the call out of their bad behaviour is actually done in an abusive way or not.
If you've been around since the start of the internet you know it used to be way worse for being verbally abused when the internet was like a digital wild west with lax mods. The internet troll didn't go exist, it was just found to have never existed because saying cruel things and threatening strangers and their families with d__th and r__e was never funny.
If you typed a paragraph of every slur known to humanity on here you would be shown out of this forum faster than you can say disrespectful. Back in the day not so much.
It's not that the internet is nastier, but we're now older and run out of energy for it's negative behaviour***, IMO the kids coming online now just think it's all a shock to the system but that's because they don't have the knowledge of what it was like when it was worse to compare it against. Because I'm even more of an outspoken "g-bsh-te" now than I've ever been but I haven't received a death threat since 2011.

* Rebranding online bullying as cancel culture was unnecessary politicising since we already know bullying is bad.

** That was normal back in 2005: Big drama = whatever = delete account + put middle finger up to the bullies and just remake account under a new name. Nobody even made that big of a deal of it.

** And good thing too. Nobody should have been expected to put up with it in the first place. "If you can't take the heat keep off the 'net" was always a horrible and toxic mentality.

(Wow reading this back it's quite meaty for a reply that's just a casual observation. Sorry if that's a bit TLDR.)

The trouble with social media is that very few people treat it as a public forum, by that I mean that most people either don't know or can't be bothered to debate or argue with the author of a posting that they disagree with. Instead the preference is to reply as you have stated, which in my eyes says much more about them than it does you in this instance. There is also usually a kind of mob mentality involved which doesn't help. The best response is just to ignore people like that I think, though I know how upsetting it can be sometimes.

I don't know what the answer is other than that, apart from educating 90% of the world's population though that won't happen of course. It's how we've ended up with a cancel culture in this country I think, and people generally don't realise what the end result of such a culture/policy would be. Maybe that's why it's allowed to flourish!?

I don't doubt that your intentions were good, though as others have said, it's just words and people can interpret them in different ways.

I would say so, it's not that talk here doesn't get serious but it's more accurate to say it seldom feels vitriolic, and most abusive language is limited to certain users encountering certain topics rather than an overal theme of the forum here. Precisely because we are all here primarily for support so this forum does tend to lean more compassionate and tolerate from the innate empathy that we mostly all have something in common already.

It is easy to annoy people accidentally online. I try to be careful in what I say. I'm not on Twitter or Instagram at all and I use Facebook for a couple of selected groups, although even then things can get tense sometimes. I do blog, but the blogging community seems to be mostly supportive -- maybe the greater effort needed to write or even read a blog post weeds out the trolls, or maybe it's just that blogging about autism and mental illness selects for people who have experienced difficulty and can empathise with others.

I try to stay off it as much as I can and just go on to find out any specific info I need then get off asap. It’s just too polarised with no room for nuance or prosper debate. There are lots of angry people on there who in real life might not have the courage to be rude to your face. Just steer clear as much as possible would be my advice. 

Thanks I was an early adopter, the first perm job I had was for an Internet service provider in 1995 and I defo sterr clear of politics and religion.  Kicking myself for commenting. 

Honestly yes. Stay off social media. Especially Facebook and Twitter. Those are just cesspits of humanity where everyone will take what you say out of context regardless of whether there is anything to mistake or not just because it's teh culture of the internet there for everyone to pile on voracious for their pound of flesh like an opportunistic pirahna.
Other sites are better but really even then best to stick to the side of them where you are just discussing your hobbies and interests, never poke a religious or political post, not even with a 10 ft barge pole.
That should go for everyone ND or NT.

Shame more people don't follow the THINK rule.


I also consider it a rule to take with a pinch of salt any post that doesn't follow that rule, and to remember that the way people treat you is more about them than it is you. People who are happy and secure don't jump swearing down the neck of strangers on the internet.