Published on 12, July, 2020
I've realised that people prefer it if I start with pleasantries, not just going straight to the point of what I want to say.
e.g. just now I went to get my recycling bin after it had been emptied. At least I thought it was my bin. I saw my neighbour getting into his car so I called 'is this my bin?' He looked blankly at me and said, 'hello, how are you? Haven't seen you for a while.' I was confused, I needed to know if that bin was mine or his. He was confused because he hadn't seen me for a while and wanted to say hello, not talk about bins.
Then it dawned on me, ta dahhhhhhhhhh! I should have said 'hello how are you?' Before launching into the questions about the bin.
I like to get straight to the point, never mind chit chat. Most humans prefer the chit chat first.
I hope this has been helpful
NT communication 101! Think of 3 things you couldn’t careless about, and say that before asking the real question.
”hi, how are you? how are the kids getting on at school? weather has been terrible hasn’t it? By the way….?
I find I can ask the questions, but I struggle to make my tone of voice or facial expressions sound and look actually interested.
This is amazing. I have a feeling it's terribly difficult for me to recall what I don't like on the spot. Like going into a library I've never been in and hunting for an author...