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Recently diagnosed

Matt P
over 6 years ago

Hi. 

I have recently been diagnosed with Aspergers. I am 42, married with 2 young children. 

For a long time I have always felt that there has been something wrong, my reactions to people and society in general has always been a little off. I have no compassion whatsoever for people I don’t know and have never understood people who have. 

From being a child I have suffered with Tourette like tics and twitches but in the early 80s when my tics we’re at their worst, nobody really had interest in autism and it’s associated affects. 

Throughout school and university I was an overachiever, gaining the highest grades possible. Once into a working life, I flitted from job to job because I couldn’t keep my mouth shut and always thought that I was a bit of an outsider. 

Now that I am older and there is more information available about autism I decided to speak to someone and find out if what I believed to be true was true or it was just me. I perfectly fitted the profile of someone with Aspergers and looking back I realise that this is why I have said and done things and have ended up in social situations. 

Now i don’t know how to react to the diagnosis or who to talk to about it. 

Parents
  • over 6 years ago

    Firstly..,also 42, married, with a teenager..,,not pushed diagnosis myself......

    how do you feel about your diagnosis? How does your partner and family? Are work aware? :)

  • over 6 years ago in reply to .

    Luckily, I work for myself so that isn't an issue. It has been in the past though.

    I'm not sure how I feel about it. It seems like a form of closure a little bit as I have always had a feeling that something just wasn't right. It's all very fresh in my mind and theres not many people that I can trust enough to talk to about it.

    I haven't actually told my wife yet, I'm not sure how she'd react.

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  • over 6 years ago in reply to .

    Luckily, I work for myself so that isn't an issue. It has been in the past though.

    I'm not sure how I feel about it. It seems like a form of closure a little bit as I have always had a feeling that something just wasn't right. It's all very fresh in my mind and theres not many people that I can trust enough to talk to about it.

    I haven't actually told my wife yet, I'm not sure how she'd react.

Children
  • over 6 years ago in reply to Matt P

    I have taught a good number of children with autism....so felt daft that I hadn’t recognised it as also including me.

    i joined the forum during the summer holiday and it is worth getting involved and talking here as I am sure it will help. Talking with other Aspies also helps to open up in a trusting place, to ask questions, get sound advice and also most importantly learn to love the quirks and brilliance of the condition reflected back at you