Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi I'm a mum of 3 and I am loosing my mind, I don't really no where to start and explain why I am here.My 3 year old daughter is autistic However undiagnosed as of yet, my assessor keep putting her physiological testing back, in one year I have had one consultation I am going out of my mind as I need the correct help.I don't know how to cope with it anymore she barely sleeps, (4-5 hours per night) if I'm lucky, she pushes all boundaries which ain't too ridiculous, she screams and cries if she cannot get her own way eg: taking away scissors or acting on impulses that would seem dangerous to a normal person. She has no sense of danger and bolts when my back is turned, she will repeat words or sounds over and over again, she hits me and is violent towards her siblings (8 and 1) I can't tell her off as she will just laugh at me not understanding what she is doing.This is just the tip of the iceburg and I'm struggling to understand how she ticks.... Please from a desperate mother how can I get a diagnosis quicker, the father has a better understanding as the paternal grandmother has autism and has grown up with it. I feel like a failure and need someone to talk to who would understand
Hi Tired mummy,
I'm sorry to hear about the situation your family are currently going through. In terms of getting a diagnosis, the following link provides further information on this:
http://www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/children.aspx
You may also want to look at our section that provides advice for parents, relatives and carers of people with autism.http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/parents-relatives-and-carers.aspx
Regarding your daughter's behaviour, people on the autism spectrum disorder can often display behaviour that may be challenging. There will generally be a reason for this and it is important to try and understand the trigger for the behaviour when developing strategies. Please see the following link for more information on behaviour and strategies:
http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour.aspx
Finally, the Autism Helpline can provide you with information and advice on your issue. You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm), although please note that the Helpline is experiencing increasingly high demand, and you may not reach them straight away.
Please see the following link for further information:
http://www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/main.aspx
If you have any further questions please don't hesitate to get in touch,
Best wishes,
Nellie-Mod