Recently self identified as Autistic

Hello everyone, I am a 26 year old woman living in the US. I am (sort of) pursuing an official diagnosis through insurance but not sure how that will go. My private Psychiatrist agrees with my assessment that I am autistic and offered to give me the diagnosis herself. However I am hesitant to get an official diagnosis because I fear any kind of negative outcomes that might have for me. Autism explains so much of what has happened in my life so far. I have been considering autism in my head for a few years now and finally feel confident to self identify.  I do wish I knew sooner. I would have made some different choices especially around college. I am successful on the surface. I have a master's degree and a good job with my state government. I have a boyfriend. But I don't have close friends.  I feel lonely for the type of inconsistent but intense friendship I had as a child and teen. I have struggled with depression since age 10 as well as anxiety.  I have chronic migraines and ADHD. since starting Adhd medication my headaches have improved. I don't know. I just want to reach out to and meet more autistic people as I continue to try to accept this about myself. I have talked with my parents and family about identifying as autistic and they have been supportive as well as giving me additional examples of autistic traits I had as a child, my boyfriend hasn't said much about it either way.  Thanks for reading. 

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  • Hi, welcome, I've only in the last few days starting coming on here, so another newbie. 

    I'm in a similar boat really but I'm much older than you I'm 41. I'm having quite a big struggle at the moment the realisation I'm autistic but I don't know either if I want to put myself through the stress of going down the assessment/official diagnosis route. I hear some people never do and as long as they find out what works for them they don't feel they need to.

    Do you feel you would need any extra help/understanding at work? Just here in the UK they offer help in workplace if you are diagnosed with autism. I don't work myself and haven't for a very long time due to multiple struggles.

    That's good your family is supportive, your boyfriend might just need time to understand/process it all, my husband was/is the same but he's trying.

    I'm the same I don't really have any friends, I message an old friend rarely but I haven't spent any time with her since i was 15 thats when I left school because I couldn't cope, not with the learning I wanted to learn it was everything else. The thought of trying to attempt to socialise now is just too much, i don't even see family outside of home but I'm not close with them any way.

    They seem a good community here, I'm sure there will be many others wanting to connect Slight smile

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  • Hi, welcome, I've only in the last few days starting coming on here, so another newbie. 

    I'm in a similar boat really but I'm much older than you I'm 41. I'm having quite a big struggle at the moment the realisation I'm autistic but I don't know either if I want to put myself through the stress of going down the assessment/official diagnosis route. I hear some people never do and as long as they find out what works for them they don't feel they need to.

    Do you feel you would need any extra help/understanding at work? Just here in the UK they offer help in workplace if you are diagnosed with autism. I don't work myself and haven't for a very long time due to multiple struggles.

    That's good your family is supportive, your boyfriend might just need time to understand/process it all, my husband was/is the same but he's trying.

    I'm the same I don't really have any friends, I message an old friend rarely but I haven't spent any time with her since i was 15 thats when I left school because I couldn't cope, not with the learning I wanted to learn it was everything else. The thought of trying to attempt to socialise now is just too much, i don't even see family outside of home but I'm not close with them any way.

    They seem a good community here, I'm sure there will be many others wanting to connect Slight smile

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