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Ryan

Just been diagnosed with autism and don’t really know what to do next. I didn’t really tell anyone throughout the process and i’m not sure what to say or how to tell anyone or what i’m meant to now that I’ve got the diagnosis. 

It feels like something should be different now but nothing is.

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  • congrats - it's a massive thing for you, take your time and learn as much as you can - it's a journey with new knowledge of yourself and hopefully you'll be kinder to yourself too

    Yes the disclosure - is tricky.  I was diagnosed a year ago - so my wife and kids know, 1 parent does , the other parent and my sister don't.

    Work - well HR know and my manager and their manager know - and I'm open to a ND group (we have a private channel on Teams).  Legally (UK) you don't have to disclose at work - so I've not really told any of the other people I work with: that may change in time but mask stays on, for now.  Luckily I largely WFH so that is very helpful.

    I rushed to disclose to some ppl I've know for about 6 years, but it didnt go well, so I've not seen them since - I get invited on WhatsApp but I decline. 

    One friend , I've know for over 30+ years (I only see say 2 times a year) but they have been great - so it's a good way to filter out  who the good friends are (not that I have many these days)

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  • congrats - it's a massive thing for you, take your time and learn as much as you can - it's a journey with new knowledge of yourself and hopefully you'll be kinder to yourself too

    Yes the disclosure - is tricky.  I was diagnosed a year ago - so my wife and kids know, 1 parent does , the other parent and my sister don't.

    Work - well HR know and my manager and their manager know - and I'm open to a ND group (we have a private channel on Teams).  Legally (UK) you don't have to disclose at work - so I've not really told any of the other people I work with: that may change in time but mask stays on, for now.  Luckily I largely WFH so that is very helpful.

    I rushed to disclose to some ppl I've know for about 6 years, but it didnt go well, so I've not seen them since - I get invited on WhatsApp but I decline. 

    One friend , I've know for over 30+ years (I only see say 2 times a year) but they have been great - so it's a good way to filter out  who the good friends are (not that I have many these days)

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