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i feel normal, but am i really?

- m15, gcses this year, grades are questionable in some, decent in others + I barely revise (severe lack in diligence)

- no problems with sounds or anything. i'll only have a meltdown if you get my mother to berate me for half an hour because that is genuinely overwhelming

- communication feels fine, although my mouth feels slow sometimes and i probably sound dumb (how do i fix this)

- had an autism diagnosis when i was younger + earlier life was a mess and i've pretty much forgotten it. feel "less autistic" as i age but that's probably an illusion

- for some reason just wouldn't write large pieces and consequently can not write anything (more than a couple of sentences; i overthink) for my gcse english (lang && lit).

- socially, i have some basis of how to act but still end up feeling like something was done wrong.

- any clarification required?

- i've also probably forgotten something important

- i don't think i have adhd (don't fit dsm criteria), or maybe just it isn't that conspicuous.

- essentially, i don't know how to feel.

- please don't tell me to cope with this, unless i'm just being naive.at this point, i crave change towards """""normality""""" and acceptance.

the little tree hugger 10 months ago in reply to Goosey

Thank you for clarifying
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Goosey 11 months ago in reply to Number

I was ^^
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Goosey 11 months ago in reply to the little tree hugger

The members account was deleted because he or she was under the age of 16 which equals an automatic ban on this forum unfortunately.

I hope the member can find support elsewhere. I don't like the thought of him or her not getting the support they need.

There's very little support out there for autism.
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the little tree hugger 11 months ago

I can't decipher whether your name is "deleted user" or if that indicates you are, in fact, a deleted user... I hope someone fixes that.
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Number 11 months ago

Is ANYONE really normal, when aged 15 ?!
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Autonomistic 11 months ago in reply to auTist

It looks like the account was deleted because the OP stated they're 15, which is too young to join this site as per the mod post above.
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auTist 11 months ago

What happened to the OP?

Anyway OP if you see this - yes you are normal. This is normal for you. There's no such thing as "normal" we're all different and I think it's awesome.

Take care and don't judge yourself too much.
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Rosie Mod 11 months ago
Please see reminder of Rule 1:

Only those aged over 16 are permitted to join the community. If you are under 16 please use other services, such as the ones in the Autism Services Directory 
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Uhane 11 months ago in reply to I Sperg

ha ha!

I would have if he had stuck around. I threw the fight, so he had already left the country!
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I Sperg 11 months ago in reply to Uhane

Did you spit your gum protectors at your manager on the way out? :c)
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Uhane 11 months ago

One would have to define normal if they want to strive for it. I have yet to figure it out, indeed have thrown in the towel and left the ring, draping my gloves on the ropes. Feeling is feeling and what ever one feels is what is authentic at that moment. Try for authentic is more productive for me.
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Hullabaloo 11 months ago

I don't know what would neurotypically be considered "normal." I mean there's information and studies done on autism, but I find it hard to find anything on just what neurotypical development would be like, what "normal" would be like. It is just the typical development of a human being, but what the heck does that specifically mean? It just isn't very obvious to me what kind of developmental milestones neurotypicals experience, because I can't find it listed anywhere.

I think that a majority of people don't like how their own voice sounds, but over time, I've realized to just concentrate on the message I'm trying to convey to others, more than just becoming fixated on how slow or stupid my voice sounds. I just stopped caring. If I sound slow or stupid, so be it, but at least I have a voice, so I'm going to use it to get information across to people.

As long as you can live a relatively normal life, and can socialize with people to a degree, I think that's fine. I mean, I don't know what kind of things you want to do with your life, but I think you should aim to do the things you enjoy, regardless of your past diagnosis.
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