Published on 12, July, 2020
Hey everyone, I've only recently realised (aboutr 3/4 months ago) that I display a lot of ASD traits. I'm 34 and my (now estranged) wife wrote a loooong list of all the things I do/don't do.
Overall I feel annoyed that I didn't realise sooner, I'm annoyed that my parents and teachers didn't realise. If I'd known sooner, I feel like I could have managed life a bit better, I might have been able to save my marriage for one.
However since realising I've been a lot more aware of how I react to things, and try to find ways to cope. I used to get so annoyed with my kids when they were just doing kid stuff (like being loud and jumping around) and I really hate that I did. But I feel like now I can have a good word with myself and just be more patient. I still struggle with large supermarkets, I don't think that's ever going to change!
I've joined this community to get an insight into how other people live with ASD and learn from you guys where I can. I want to live the best life I can going forward.
keep that list from ur wife its very useful. Be nice to her as she may be needed in your diagnosis.
Maybe u are such a border line case no-one has the nerve to say to you
"You are autistic"
Or they don't see all of u so there is not enough to say to justify "You are autistic"
but your ex-partner is saying you are she sees all of your behaviours so u owe her big time she uncovered u.
do the autism tests online to see how u score.
if u dont have a link let us know / just ask.
u know to make a list of all the reasons u have autism right
ther is one autistic trait which i always found amusing
"Funny hair"
i was always told "a cow must have licked me when born" because my hair was like Boris's in the wind :)
I made a great punk !
Thanks aidie!
I've done a few tests online and they've all come back saying the same sort of thing. Did the AQ10 this morning and got a 7/10. I'll have to dig out that list, but honestly my relationship with my ex is a lot better now that I don't have to think about all the additional marriage stuff.
I think I hide my symptoms well, by mimicry and by just being quiet. When I read other people's experiences it's like seeing the world in a new light - I find myself going, oh I do that a lot.
That funny hair thing is so funny! I have ridiculously unruly hair, just does whatever it wants at all angles.
see isn't it amazing