teenagers making friends / dating

Sorry but you are under 18 year old.  I recommend you move to the discord teenage groups I sent you.

   ----------- my mistake i got age limit wrong

policing and caring for people and doing anything that involves mental health disabilities, awareness

What was your 'thing' when you were younger?      What is/was your passion?

ok but what kinda thing???

sorry i don't know what kinda thing i should go for

Research and e-mails to find a place where you might fit.       Find what's in your local area.       I do recommend being open and honest - nerdy people are usually very accepting and understanding and inclusive.

Don't make yourself sound like a pain - but just say you sometimes get overloaded and need some fresh air - they'll understand.

What sort of interests do you have?     I'm into Lego, RC model ships, Aircraft, cars, computers etc. - the geek is strong in me!

oh yeah I do like rules 

so what kinda things i can do during covid-19 ???

You'll find nice people if you join nerdy groups like local history, plastic modelling,  railway groups, wildlife conservation, classic cars,  museum volunteers, book clubs etc. - basically anywhere where people require a lot of specialist knowledge to want to go along and meet up with other knowledgable people.    Like I say, stick to group activities until you gain confidence in yourself - you can hide in plain sight and learn 'the rules'.  

Also, in group activities, they will more than likely accommodate you needing quieter venues - and if you're open with them and explain your difficulties, just mention that if you get overloaded, you might need to step out side for a little while while you get yourself together - but don't just give up and go home - it takes action from both sides.

hi, 

many thanks for your advice but it wouldn't totally work for me 

i am really trying to socialize but I do find it very difficult 

i want to meet more people on the spectrum who live in a near but far enough distance 

meeting someone for lunch is one of my worst nightmares quite literally just because of the amounts of people that can be eating aty once 

and then my sensory overload kicks in and it just gets super complicated and difficult 

especially when you are old and get the stares 

again many thanks 

I would actively seek out the most nerdy people you can - they often turn out to be undiagnosed aspies - but they are very much easier to deal with - no agendas or politics - just people who enjoy sharing their passions.         The earlier you start, the better - while everyone is still inexperienced in their social skills and just learning how to interact.       If you leave it too late, there's a much larger social skills gap so you can end up looking immature / gauche / clumsy - it's the worst way of finding out your limits.   Friends that you make earlier are much more likely to accept you and stay friends because you all learn together how to navigate the social scene.

Same with the opposite sex - the earlier you start, the less embarrassing it is - you're on the same romantic skill level as everyone else.    I recommend group activities - bowling, pubs etc. because if you get tongue-tied or run out of things to say, no-one will notice because of the group dynamic - and if you click with someone, organise something a bit more romantic - but simple - like a lunchtime coffee-  keep it short and simple - and cheap if it turns out to be a bust.  

I'm an aspie in my 50s and my closest friends are from my school days - and I think some of them are very aspie - but undiagnosed.   I met my wife at school - we're married now for over 30 years.

Good luck!

did u try out the Discord link I sent you ?

yes of course, i have issues maintaining friendships.....  we are ( mostly ) antisocial

how fo fix it ......  I dont know   .... i would need to know about you I guess before I can spot what u're doing not so well