Been good to hear from any adult ASD diagnosed women in this forum... or does anyone know any good sites for ASD women?
Hello out there......anyone????
Been good to hear from any adult ASD diagnosed women in this forum... or does anyone know any good sites for ASD women?
Hello out there......anyone????
Hello there. Welcome. Yes there are several of women in our 40's and 50's on the forum. This is the first thread I joined in with too. It was such a revelation to find other women who knew about asd in their family or themselves. Yes it is both a shock and a relief to recognise this is "it" that explains so much about our lives. It takes quite some working through. The reading and finding out takes quite a while because the more you read the more links there are and connections to other conditions. On here there are formally diagnosed and self diagnosed but we try to support each other as we can. I'm 55 and through the menopause slightly earlier than the norm so I recognise that 11 years of hot flushes is a challenge. I have read that females with Neurodiversity asd adhd etc go through the female lifecycle puberty, menstruation, menopause differently to those without that. I'm not sure how they record such things but mine has caused problems throughout. And yes because of hormonal changes it does affect our brains and it does for some exacerbate traits or difficulties. I have particularly read about this in connection to adhd. So yes a lot of what you are saying I identify with as Im sure it will with others. I think I read to reread this thread to remind myself what everyone has said. There is a lot of information in various threads and if you are interested in particular things you can use the search at the top of the page.
Hello there. I am new to this but having seen your question about the menopause felt I had to reply. I have recently realised, at the grand old age of 58, that I may have asd. I've been doing a lot of reading. I've had bad hot flushes for 11 years now which do not respond to any sort of treatment. Not only is it exhausting but I think it's one of the reasons I use to justify avoiding people as it's so embarrasing. I also have hearing difficulties and tinnitus (and get 'sensory overload' pretty quickly). In reality I'm just hopeless with other people as I'm never sure how to respond to them or how I'm coming across. I'm very glad to have found you ladies! At the moment I'm veering between feeling enormously relieved to have an explanation for the way my life has gone, and swamped - my brain seems to be on a mission to catalouge every example of aspie behaviour/thought/feeling that I've ever had! Anyway, I look forward to hearing from someone.
Spotty. Ditto as well. Besides we need you to talk about yourself as part of the process of understanding ourselves because it's where other people understand what we're saying!
Limegreenwelly Like and agree!
I wanted to be able to quote this on the community/user thread but seems I can only put it here. I think if you are not logged into the sit before you hit the link it is hopeless, wherever you sign in from it chucks you right back out to the home page of the site, not even in the community pages, never mind the thread or post you were looking at. I agree, frustrating. I love your logic around talking about yourself, makes perfect sense to me...limegreenwelly said:Ok what I find really frustrating and difficult is I get a email and can see that someone (miamoo) has replied to my comments and yet apart from the email link, once I log in and try putting recent first I then can't find the post I've come to reply to. This makes me extremely frustrated and anxious.
Ok what I find really frustrating and difficult is I get a email and can see that someone (miamoo) has replied to my comments and yet apart from the email link, once I log in and try putting recent first I then can't find the post I've come to reply to. This makes me extremely frustrated and anxious. Miamoo if you can see this, talk about yourself as much as you want here. I see these forums as a place where I can really be myself. My husband says I only talk about myself....I only know about myself, what I've heard, read, learnt or experienced. I don't understand how you can converse without talking about yourself. But feel free here to express whatever you want.
limegreenwellyJust found this.. mentions a group called "mum's on the spectrum " might be helpful
Glad you are finding a variety of resources for your search and that the mental health nurse was supportive. The process does make did make me question whether I was making it up but the "funny" thing was that I knew the reasoning wasn't right for the first assessment. So if at first you don't "succeed" don't be afraid to get a second opinion if you can face it and circumstances allow. Hope it wouldn't come to that. I think that thought is not uncommon. Thank you for the info re the groups. Nice to have you back for a little while
So good to hear from you! The Feacebook group sounds good. But I miss you here as well x
I find the groups on Facebook easier to dip in and out of, although if there is a comment here I get a notification so that does bring me back. I think I'm in 4 groups in total, the one I think I find most useful is the Autistic Women in the Uk. There's a couple more autistic specific women groups I'm in, an aspergers group and a mixed group called aspergers alliance. I'm not sure what I'm looking for, I am trying to stick to the UK group at the moment but reading stuff all over, and I've got a couple more books on the go too, just filling in the gaps and understanding myself and my place in the community. I have been working on my form. Saw the mental health nurse today and she read through the form and put some of the worries and anxieties I have about it to rest for now. I just want/ need someone to listen to what I'm saying and see that I'm not making it up! This diagnosis is crucial for me as a parent of 2 boys who I suspect to be on the spectrum too, but like me, not bad enough for it to be recognised.
Hello Limegreenwelly.. good to hear you. I was just reading back and wondered if you had had your assessment and how you got on? Also though I wouldn't participate in Facebook I am curious to know about the groups you joined.. what are they like and have you found what you were looking for in a forum/group? I saw one that looked really good "autism women's network " I think it was called , if I remember rightly its Australian.
I wrote a reply and lost it .. yes it looks interesting and varied. I liked the write ups about each speaker. I followed up on the stimming mentioned. There are other conferences in other parts of the country but also training and courses at several levels on the nas website. I realised I was so busy trying to keep up with posts I wasn't making enough use of the main website.
I'd love to go but it's just too far away!
I have found some lovely asd groups on Facebook. There's one in particular called Autistic Women in the UK. Obviously if Facebook is a problem for you that won't work either. I would just suggest you keep trying until you find what you need. I have found thus forum very helpful and supportive!
http://www.autism.org.uk/professionals/conferences/women-and-girls/speakers.aspx
I was just browsing looking for inspiration. I thought others might be interested in this. I thought even if I didn't attend I could look up the work of the key speakers and topics. Also going to look to see what the online training is.
Hey there welly. Well done.
Once filled in Make sure you keep a copy. When I did the referral for Lorna Wing it helped them to have documentation on my education/qualifications and employment history as well as symptoms. As an adult the first assessors pestered my dad who really had a completely different view to me and wasn't helpful so for the Lorna Wing my sister came with me and was interviewed separately ( so she could speak freely) and gave a more accurate picture of our childhood. So choose someone ( if you can) who knew you in childhood and you trust their representation of you. All the checklists are helpful as a guide but I almost found all the other stuff harder.
Well done you...,.phew....how long did the meeting last and was it stressful?