Published on 12, July, 2020
I spent a lot of my life struggling with my sexuality and thought coming out as gay would give me the answers I needed as to why I always felt different. But 5 years on after coming out as gay and being in a happy relationship, I still feel I find daily life hard. Over the past few months I have discovered I may be autistic and feel a diagnosis would literally validate my life, however when I’ve asked close people to me whether they think I could be autistic they have said no not at all, so I’m very confused. I’ve listed below just a small number of significant things I’ve realised could make me autistic.
Childhood traits which felt “normal” and fine to me at the time:
Teenage traits:
Adult traits:
However, I also have a lot of non-typical autistic traits which very much confuse me. Examples of these are I love socialising and I am not very direct in communicating whatsoever, Infact the complete opposite and struggle to be honest and direct.
Thank you for anybody who has read this entire post. I don’t feel I can talk about this with anybody so writing down has helped.
As for being gay, as an older gay man myself, I would strongly advise steering well clear of the modern LGBT community, as I have personally experienced and endured how unaccepting, discriminatory, judgemental, hateful, toxic and hypocritical they really are
Eeek that doesn't sound good. How do you meet someone to be a partner with as I've tried the LGBT community, vegan groups and online dating which all left me disillusioned......
I can't help with how to meet someone, but I do know that us autistics are prone binary thinking - all or nothing. So, try to remember everyone is a unique individual. You don't have to write off someone who is in the "LGBT community". A mob is more scary than the individuals that make it up, and some may actually be very reasonable.
Yes - quite the conundrum. An anonymous pub-free version of speed dating run by the NAS or something like that.