Finding and tolerating flaws in others

I'm always finding flaws - not just in others, but life in general, the World, etc (inlcuding my own flaws).

I have been massively sceptical for many years. I am very much a half empty glass kinda guy and see things as broken, useless, pointless until proven otherwise. A very negative (I call it realistic) point of view.

That is true enough. However, we do not get to choose (for example) the politicians that might form part of The Cabinet. We may despise the party they represent, but think another politician within that party would be better suited to a particular Cabinet role.

I enjoy your sensible contributions to the forum JFG. I fear I may be able to overlook others flaws but I doubt they will overlook mine,

Who votes for those politicians? The voter.

That doesn't happen to me I more see my own flaws and then I'm feeling so negative towards myself like I got IBS and get a load of discomfort and then I'm feeling low about it. My body is flawed on many levels and it's depressing AH to even think about lol. I see other people flaws as well but mostly I notice my own.

All humans have a tendency toward Judging others, can default to a bias and preference. The role of religion can be to help us examine our own faults rather than another’s  

An autistic difference might be the intensity of impact another has on us. It’s important to find out how another's “flaws” are affecting you. 

But a classic phrase in expert Relationship advice is to find someone whose flaws you can tolerate. Also stated that a good partnership is one where our dysfunctions compliment one another. 

I find this is something I can be especially guilty of if I happen to be listening to politicians I don't like on TV. It's as though I have already dismissed them and what they are going to say before they have said it.

However, in my daily life, I try hard not to be dismissive of people too hastily. Sometimes it has paid off and I have been pleasantly surprised... That those people aren't as bad as I may have initially thought, and are actually very nice people.

I can be very dismissive of people I don't like.

You'd need to conduct some kind of study to find out if My OP is true or not.  But I'm just raising the question as it's something I notice in me.

Yes you could be right about it being human nature.  I was just wondering if Autist's were more prone to it or not.  I have no way of finding out via the medium of this thread I don't think.

Yes. If you are correct that a greater proportion of Autist's are idealists (And I think you are) then this could be something that many Autists have to deal with.  I ask myself why can't the world be perfect?  And I also ask the same thing of people. Including myself.

I spend more time feeling hyper conscious of my own flaws and trying to hide them 

Sporadic Sparkly said:

The question is... Are those flaws actually flaws, or just things that irritate me and no big deal in the grand scheme of things? 

Excellent point and question. 

I'm a flaw finding expert.  I wondered if it's to do with autism and now seeing this thread I would say it most likely is.

All day working in my office I'm constantly noticing my colleagues flaws, not in a horrible way it's just like my brain is locked on to them and I can't not notice them.

I know lots of people like this and i think most of them are neurotypicals. It’s just human nature.

I too can be good at finding flaws in others, and can also (sometimes) have difficulty tolerating those flaws.

The question is... Are those flaws actually flaws, or just things that irritate me and no big deal in the grand scheme of things?  

We're Idealists, by nature. So others' fallibility pisses us off.

However, I pray for those who do piss me off!