Published on 12, July, 2020
Just musing more than anything, I’m two years into my autism journey and still learning how differently autistic people understand communication with neurotypical people. I would often get into trouble and still do, last weekend my wife was looking on the internet and said to me, “There’s a craft fair on tomorrow.” my answer was, “That’s nice.” I got told off on Monday for closing the conversation down because I didn’t want to go. I just said that she didn’t say she wanted for us to go. Last night, a silly thing, I nuked some Christmas pudding after dinner and used up some cream that was near its end. I was told that I had looked after myself. My wife told me she had mentioned earlier that she fancied rice pudding.
I know I most probably sound boring, it just made me realise how neurotypical people talk in riddles and don’t just say what they want.
My ideal would have been, “There’s a craft fair tomorrow, shall we go?”
”while your in the kitchen, can you nuke my rice pudding?”
Still just realising how differently we communicate.
Exactly, please say what you want. I say it as it is, to the point. I like others to be the same. Too many people talk in riddles, are ungenuine, two faced. I dont like it. We cant read minds, well not…
I’m okay with spoken-rhetoric and am quite a force when the interest is there, less so if interest is not there, the issue arises where I am expected to absorb any spoken-declarations. So I prefer to have…
Maybe we have different expectations. Maybe we ND are more precise, articulate or maybe im talking rubbish, but im noticing that we are some of the nicest, genuine, kindest, honest people i know x
These might be helpful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOiB5WreR0k, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZ-wCP4tjrg . I haven't watched them but the title looks like it could be helpful.
A problem I have with communication is I have to raise my voice to actually be heard, then im asked why am I shouting.