Traditional / Old Fashioned Thinking

As an older person with Autism, I was brought up in very different times with different thinking, values, acceptance, behaviour, etc (1970's & 80's).

The World has changed so much since then - both for better and worse.
There have been so many advancements - particularly in science and this has benefitted us ASD'ers immensely.

One thing that is troubling me is that I hold a lot of "principles" that in this day and age would be considered "Old Fashioned", "Traditional", maybe even "Bigotry" or worse.
There are things that I struggle to understand or accept which are based on my traditional attitude. I was brought up in an era when....

  • Boys had girlfriends and girls has boyfriends
  • You were born a boy and died a man
  • Men married women
  • Humour was not censored
  • People weren't "cancelled"

I openly discuss or rant about these topics along with some others that may be considered taboo with closed friends and family who have all become somewhat numb to my outrageousness / inappropriateness.

I have however managed to "behave" in public (stayed on the right side of the law), but occasionally do mutter things with a level of cowardice.
My concern is that now that I am officially autistic, the shackles of having to mask may have been broken and that has the potential of me saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.

Parents
  • I’ve been lurking on this site for 2 years plus, I am just trying to play devils advocate. Similar posts have happened before, it ends in a huge bun fight and people leaving the site. Some subjects are so emotive that they will always cause hurt.  
    I not saying anything should be off the table, just respect each other. I came here to learn about autism, neurodivergence covers many different angles, including sexuality.  
    I was born in the 1960’s, I have learned a lot, What I saw in the 70’s and 80’s was wrong, we have hopefully moved on.

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  • I’ve been lurking on this site for 2 years plus, I am just trying to play devils advocate. Similar posts have happened before, it ends in a huge bun fight and people leaving the site. Some subjects are so emotive that they will always cause hurt.  
    I not saying anything should be off the table, just respect each other. I came here to learn about autism, neurodivergence covers many different angles, including sexuality.  
    I was born in the 1960’s, I have learned a lot, What I saw in the 70’s and 80’s was wrong, we have hopefully moved on.

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