Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't know about others, but I'm getting a little concerned that the arguments will put off new members.
Quite often people join and then disappear quite quickly.
I've been involved in these myself on occasion, so I'm not innocent.
However, maybe the mods could create a section where these potentially contentious threads could be placed that had a heading like NSFW (a new one on me but it seems to be well known).
If a seemingly innocuous thread then turns into a constant argument, perhaps it could be moved to there.
It's sometimes interraction between older males and older females (or non binary etc) and comes down to very different relationship/*ex points of view but can of course stem from any subject and any set of contributors.
I think it happens more often than it once did, and I've not been here a year yet.
I think the challenge is that everyone has different triggers and it is very hard to avoid all possible triggers, especially if this is to be a space where people can feel comfortable voicing their opinions- a comment that seems innocuous to one person might really offend someone else. Of course it’s not ok to be deliberately mean or insensitive. I just feel that is very hard to define what is ‘acceptable or not’. I personally just do not read or engage with posts that I think I might not feel comfortable with.
I should probably add that I have only been occasionally active on the forum the past months so I cannot really judge if the tone has changed. I hope not.