Published on 12, July, 2020
Well well.. a very important topic for me.
How to name a feeling is a huge struggle. I could describe myself as a colour blind person who is looking at a very long colour palette. My emotions and feelings are the hundreds of colours in the palette and I'm the person who can't see more than blue, red and yellow and hundreds of shades of grey. Although I'm very sensitive and I know that my emotional landscape is very rich (hundreds of hues in my palette), I can't always name my feeling (recognise the hue for what it is), therefore I don't know how to manage it. An example, although I felt anxious in many situations in my life, I've never knew that this feeling is anxiety until last therapy session when my therapist said "when you feel anxious it's good to think of ...." And I was like "wait a minute, is this what I just described to her now (racing thoughts, restlessness, stomach pain..) is called anxiety? Wow, I finally have a name for this feeling!".. even tho I don't consider names as useful info at all, when it comes to feelings, I think it's important to name them in order to memorize it easily and research how to manage it.
Question here is, is there a book, therapy, technique or anything that would help me recognise and name my feelings? Also, am I now describing Alexithymia? I tend to really relate to others and it sort of feels like I could recognise how others feel more than myself..
This is a great example of my favourite kind of music, which I describe as "sad beautiful music". It makes me feel sort of wistful and longing, not actually sad. It makes me smile and relax. If it had been played at a funeral of someone I loved then it might well make me feel sad. There is music which makes me cry because of the emotions it is linked to from sad times or funerals, but that could probably happen with an otherwise happy song as well as a sad one. If I was dying I guess this music would be a nice soundtrack to go out to, but I think it is harsh to call it that! Though I wouldn't describe it is as happy either.
The Adagio is definitely different to other forms of music. I wonder if the west we search for singular definitions of things. In Buddhism things can be seen as sharing properties with other things. If it was played at a funeral it might be uplifting and I would feel good in and a warmth in my heart area. If I listen to Smiley Happy People I would also feel a lift and warmth in my heart area.
Calming is a good way to describe it.
"If I was dying I guess this music would be a nice soundtrack to go out to", this made me really laugh ! :D
Also, I do like this type of music too. People call it sad, I call it calming.