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The Drama of yesterday

Pathetique

Hello,

I accept my high sensitivity as a trait. However, I went through drama regarding my HSP self yesterday.

Yesterday I wanted to leave on time for youth club at 18:15 – the same time every week. Mum actually dragged me out of the front door a few minutes early and it upset me because I like to leave at my time. We had to leave early because there was traffic.

On the way there, this resulted in conflict and almost not going to Sainsbury’s before. I did end up going to Sainsbury’s though. I like it when Mum walks me places to the sweet isle in the shop. She didn’t do it though when I wanted her to.

After I got out of the shop, we then went straight to youth club. I wanted Mum to take me in with me, once again she didn’t want to. I prefer her to come with me. I decided to stay out of youth club in their car park to earn the minutes that I lost at home when waiting. After waiting for 5 minutes, My youth club leader came out and said ‘I was worried about you’ because she thought I was lost – when I was safe. One of my friends saw me when I arrived and stayed in the car park.

When youth club ended, Mum walked through the garden entrance when I like her to go through the main and other entrance. My youth club leader than said I was lost and she was worried about me. I left and my parents had a go at me for being myself.

How can I deal with these problems?

Thanks.

  • in reply to Pathetique

    Hi there. Thanks for your answer. 19 years old is a long time ago for me now - I am a 49 she/her.

    What you are describing sounds so unfair.. Have you had a chance to talk to your parents about what happened? 

    For me, following a routine allows me to keep my anxiety at bay. Going to a Youth Club would be hard enough for me. Let alone all of the other stressful events on top.

    I hope that things are better for you now and that they are better at understanding what you need to happen.

  • Hello,

    None of what you have described is related to being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). Based on how you described the events, you are indicating that you have RDA (routine disruption anxiety) which, research suggests, is very common among autistic adolescents. When your routines change—like leaving for youth club before 18:15— you may get anxious, upset, aggressive or overwhelmed. You have a developmental disability caused by differences in your brain and this causes you to behave, communicate, interact, and learn in ways that are different from most other people.  Have you had an Autism Assessment?

  • in reply to mrs.snooks

    Hello. That's alright. I am 19 years old.

  • Hi Pathetique, I'm sorry to ask you, but can I just check with you that you are over 16. I will chat with you, but I need to check your age as being old enough for me to feel comfortable about doing that. Thanks Mrs Snooks